For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

Why don’t you just message her privately mentioning the issue and asking if she wants you to edit it?

I'd think they were a dick for essentially telling me I should be embarrassed about something I'm not embarrassed about. I don't prefer anything visible, I just don't do anything to hide them so don't want to be told I should.

We're talking about hair in places where is usually found wearing swimwear which rarely covers the area. Nobody's "growler" is on show.

It's kinder to just go ahead and photoshop the pic. Nobody is going to prefer to be showing their bush than not. If indeed your friend genuinely doesn't care, then no harm is done either way.

Yeah mate it is on show, and not doing anything about it is preferring it on show. If you didn’t like it, you’d do something about it. And not insinuate someone would be a dick to cover it up for you😂

Most folks prefer to keep their pubesprivate. As shocking as that is.

Gorgeous dog!

And presumably most people do, I don't think OP is talking about her friend walking around with her fanny out. But if she's wearing a bikini and there's a few stray hairs, call the church elders!

Mabel are you happy to show the world your pubes...yes or no ?

If no I can edit the pictures.

Just ask her.

Um always best to read the thread, the posts were not in direct response to the op. The quotes are a dead giveaway to help you.

Maybe share a Photoshopped version with her, only add more fur and a big arrow, and ask if she wants you to Photoshop it!

Not sure what kind of anatomy lesson is needed here but no, a few stray hairs that go below the leg line of a swimsuit does not mean my genitals are in any way on show.

And yes, if I did care about appearing to be hairless I would do something about it. I don't care and would resent being told my not caring is inappropriate. Sometimes I wear full shorts and a long sleeved rash vest for a bit more warmth in the UK sea. Sometimes I wear a normal swimsuit. In neither item am I choosing to show or cover hair. They are just items that are cut differently.

Anyway, OP doesn't know if her friend is bothered or not so should just ask. Not that she's coming back again, clearly.

Yes but the other posters are responding to the situation as described by the OP? Not sure there's any need for the snark.

Are you really good friends? If so id be sending "Just checking did you know you've got spiders legs showing? 🤣 " and if she's horrified offer to shop them out.

Then stop posting snark.

Think you maybe don’t know what growler means, 😂

I would too!

Like getting blood from a stone covered in pubes with you OP !

You've answered your own question here op, do you think in a million years your friend would be happy with a photo showing spider legs sticking out of bikini? Obviously not, unless it's her thing.

So going on that, she most likely hasn't noticed so feel free to edit it, if she does ask you say you only noticed once she sent it back so decided to edit it slightly.

Unless you put a bright yellow star over the area to cover it, she will not notice either way.

Just don’t upload that photo. Simple

Thanks for all the advice. I decided to just ask her. She said she didn’t notice but she’s not sure how she missed it. Doesn’t want it edited because everyone knows she has pubes because she’s an adult. Not embarrassed at all and was appreciative I offered to edit them for her. So this thread is solved, is there anyway to close the thread or delete the post now?

Either Photoshop on a pair of shorts or pixelate the whole area.

I'd be highly pissed if you did that to me.

Recently I texted a close girlfriend a selfie of myself, I felt I was looking okay that day, its more common that I feel ugly so I was happy to send the pic. She often sends me selfies of herself but they're always so retouched that she looks like a cartoon character.

Well later that day she sent the selfie back w/touch up. The last image, my teeth looked like bright white scary fake teeth. my face-it was horrific, all the smoothing etc it just isn't my thing. I know I'm older now, I don't want to look like I'm 20 yrs old.

I was so offended, I replied and asked her to delete those images and never do that to my pics again. It was awkward but no way was I going to let her do that to me.

Keep your insecurity to yourself OP! do NOT do this to a pic you're posting on sm!

That was the worst possible option to go for. She will have been mortified. More so if she reads this thread having been pubicly called out.

I would just explain it to her and ask her what she'd like you to do.

It's very hard to say. Without seeing it. If it's to make her specifically like slimmer, have 'nicer' hair, skin etc. then it's a bit weird. If someone has got a leaf stuck in their hair or there's a bird flying past in the background then that's more reasonable. I guess if you are talking about people's faces then you'd need to ps all in a similar way? To not make it look like one person was unattractive? God knows. Tbh I just don't know. If someone made me look a bit nicer but didn't go too far then I wouldn't mind personally.