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For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 11:58

Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

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CowboyJoanna · 10/09/2024 15:45

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 12:14

No no not at all. There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers. The thing is I’m not sure if my friend noticed and she doesn’t mind or she didn’t notice. If it’s latter then I could get away with photoshopping it however if it’s the former she might be offended that I asked to edit it out.

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Women have body hair so what

YABVVVVVVU

ClairDeLaLune · 10/09/2024 15:50

If I was your friend and hadn’t noticed that my pubes were showing and you had, I’d be offended if you DIDN’T photoshop them out! Do it OP.

SummerHouse · 10/09/2024 15:56

I am quite comfortable with hedge trimmings hanging out my swimmers but what goes on tour, stays on tour. If you were my friend I would say yes please, trim the bush. She might say it's fine. No way to know unless you ask.

Thebaguette · 10/09/2024 16:02

User645262 · 10/09/2024 13:33

With respect, a lot of "social photographers" assume people take them more seriously than they actually do. Most people don't see it as an amazing opportunity for free professional photos. It's actually quite cringy when a self-proclaimed pro photog comes along and documents the entire trip.

Then they always send everyone a Google Drive Link with 50GB worth of images that takes ages to open and load up. Nobody genuinely cares which pictures get uploaded onto social media...it's not Facebook 2007. Everyone will skim the photos as fast as they can and pick out the few they feel are ok just to get the task done with. This is presumably what the friend did and didn't even notice the bikini issue. If it gets photoshopped, she won't remember the difference or bother comparing images.

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I agree with what you have to say but you could have used a bit better tone. With respect and quoted social photographers was not necessary.

Weddingbells6 · 10/09/2024 16:04

I don’t think you should edit the photo. She’s seen it at the end of the day and likely checked it as she knew it was going in socials. Women have hair? It’s literally just body hair and if she went to the beach / pool / bar with this hair showing then clearly she doesn’t care that it’s showing and in which case neither should you. If you’re really uncomfortable just don’t post that one and maybe another one so it isn’t obvious that 1 is omitted.

If it’s your friend then I would think you would
be able to ascertain if she is the sort of
person that is cool with stuff like being a mammal and therefore having body hair.

YouOKHun · 10/09/2024 16:58

This thread has sent me straight to YouTube to rewatch The Smack the Pony visible pube sketches.

GivingitToGod · 10/09/2024 17:11

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 12:08

I am a hobby photographer so I have good quality cameras and can take good photos and I enjoy it so everyone leaves the photography up to me :).

I will not be sharing the photo on this forum because of privacy

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In fairness to your friend, you must let her know

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 10/09/2024 17:16

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 15:27

Thanks for all the advice. I decided to just ask her. She said she didn’t notice but she’s not sure how she missed it. Doesn’t want it edited because everyone knows she has pubes because she’s an adult. Not embarrassed at all and was appreciative I offered to edit them for her. So this thread is solved, is there anyway to close the thread or delete the post now?

How very Mumsnet of her 😉

Ilovelifeverymuch · 10/09/2024 17:25

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 12:15

Added for context

There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers. The thing is I’m not sure if my friend noticed and she doesn’t mind or she didn’t notice. If it’s latter then I could get away with photoshopping it however if it’s the former she might be offended that I asked to edit it out.

I would just message her directly to say hey wanted to confirm if I should edit this or if you're ok as it is before I post it. I'm assuming she's a friend you can talk to about stuff like this.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 10/09/2024 17:26

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 15:27

Thanks for all the advice. I decided to just ask her. She said she didn’t notice but she’s not sure how she missed it. Doesn’t want it edited because everyone knows she has pubes because she’s an adult. Not embarrassed at all and was appreciative I offered to edit them for her. So this thread is solved, is there anyway to close the thread or delete the post now?

Just saw your update after my post, that was the right approach and what I was suggesting. Goodluck.

oakleaffy · 10/09/2024 17:30

TeenageSwans · 10/09/2024 14:08

Normal slang for female genitals around here. I quite like it. It suggests a possible bite for the unwary.

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I haven't heard 'Growler' as a term for female genitalia before- it just reminded me of a hairy dog!

MLMsuperfan · 11/09/2024 14:23

My friends would probably 'shop on some extra pubes. But that's how we are.

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