For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

It was the first time I had heard it too and have been using it ever since 😂

Drip drip drip 🥱

How about just not posting that particular photo? Problem solved.

I don't people look that closely, I just glance at friends photos tbh

Good lord, just ask her if she'd noticed, as you'd rather check before posting it!!

So many posters on MN have a completely different definition of what "friend" means than me!

I don't see any issue with saying to a "friend" your pubes are showing in this one are you sure you want me to upload it 🙈😂" then suggest editing out.

I would even say that to someone who wasn't a "friend"!

If it turned out I was accidentally flashing my minge hair in a photo, I’d be very grateful to the friend who blurred it out before putting it on Instagram.

Just mention what you think is wrong, and ask if she would mind

I'd photoshop it and not ask. If it comes up just say - I didn't know what you'd want and didn't want to make you feel awkward about it, but happy to revert to the previous version if you prefer.

If this is real then yes cover her minge up properly for her.

Photo shop away … it’s embarrassing for her otherwise. The intention is thoughtful.

Given your updates- just do it. It's not like you are shaving 2 stone off or giving her bigger boobs. She won't notice.

With respect, a lot of "social photographers" assume people take them more seriously than they actually do. Most people don't see it as an amazing opportunity for free professional photos. It's actually quite cringy when a self-proclaimed pro photog comes along and documents the entire trip.

Then they always send everyone a Google Drive Link with 50GB worth of images that takes ages to open and load up. Nobody genuinely cares which pictures get uploaded onto social media...it's not Facebook 2007. Everyone will skim the photos as fast as they can and pick out the few they feel are ok just to get the task done with. This is presumably what the friend did and didn't even notice the bikini issue. If it gets photoshopped, she won't remember the difference or bother comparing images.

Just ask her.

Just edit out her pubes. I think you're the only one who has looked so closely at the photo in all honesty so get on with it and stop making a drama out of a bit of pubic hair.

“Hey Lauren , lovely photo but half your growler’s hanging out , do you want me to fix it?” Should suffice

If she's the kind of woman who grows her body hair,then leave it in. Otherwise edit it out. She probably wouldn't notice or not care.

All of this. I am not a 'social photographer', it's what I do, professionally. I cringe every time I encounter a group who've got a self-appointed official photographer. Most people are more than happy with some phone shots. They are on holiday. Not a photoshoot. The idea of putting a gallery together and now agonising over some escaped minge hair would not improve my holiday. Just leave the picture alone. She's already approved it.

stop making a drama out of a bit of pubic hair.

I’d copyright that if I were you. You could sell
it to Veet’s advertising department.

I’d love this

Is it seriously 'pubes out' or is she just a bit hairier near where her bikini is? Some people are naturally hairy, or don't shave/wax, there is a world between that and having her fanny out.

If it's the former and you just personally don't like it then YABU.

Thank god I'm not on social media if this is the level of scrutiny people give to ordinary holiday snaps now.

OP, you're making a mountain out of a molehill. No need to agonise - just ask your friend is she wants the area photoshopped or not.

Somebody two posts before yours would be offended with this kind of editing.

Just don’t share that particular photo! She obviously hasn’t noticed but I am sure she wouldn’t want it shared.

This.