For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

Is it really normal to have one person in the group upload all the photos to social media? It sounds a bit controlling. Send them all the photos and let them upload the ones they want, then you won’t have this emotional turmoil!

Your pubic hair is showing friend, shall I edit it out? FFS it's not difficult to say aloud or write.

Ask her.

That changes my answer completely. If it was anything else, I would have said either don't photoshop it, or ask her first.

But this, I would say just photoshop it. No one wants their hairs on show, and also it's the sort of thing that she might find a bit embarrassing, but there's no point drawing her attention to it since it's in the past and she can't change it now, so you might as well just photoshop them out and not mention it. Also it would be a very small change.

I adore the phrase 'knicker tache' and will be using it from now on. Although mine is more like a beard and sideburns too

What has that got to do with the OP?

Well god forbid a woman have pubic hair.

Of course i realise that not everyone wishes to share their hair so if you think she'd be embarrassed then just photoshop it out.

My husband has a birthmark on his face, one year the school photographer photoshopped it out to "be kind".

His mum quiet rightly complained as it made my husband, who hadn't cared up to that point, get a bit self conscious.

She might have seen the photo, but not zoomed in and noticed the start hairs. I'd definitely want to you Photoshop it. I can't imagine for a minute that she'd see your version and say "she's edited my pubes out! How dare she!" Why would she even look?

Just do it.

I don’t want to see men’s or women’s pubes 😂😂

My husband has a birthmark on his face, one year the school photographer photoshopped it out to "be kind".
That's a completely different situation though, and bang out of order.

Why do t you just ask her! If you had asked me I would have perfectly fine and embarrassed for you not to hide it but you should ask! She is your friend isnt she…

Instead of skirting around it just say, hey friend I saw you had some pubes poking out. Do you want me to get rid or would you prefer to keep them?

Exactly and she will say omg thank god you noticed! Get rid!
easy!

Just ask her. I don't understand why she would be offended by that.

I would send her individually the original and mention you've noticed it and your a dab hand with the photo shop if she would like you to do it but no worries if not.

A friend who I knew well enough to go on holiday with, I'd just ask her.

Only on MN would somebody be offended by having stray pubes edited out of a photo.

I couldn’t give a shit if my pubes were showing. I’m an adult, we have pubes, if other people are offended by my pubes that’s their problem, not mine.

However, I am also aware that many women would be horrified if their pubes were showing. Again, they are an adult and this is their choice.

We have no idea which camp your friend falls into. Just ask her, it’s really not a big deal either way.

Just tell her her pubes are out and of she wants then photoshopped - if she’s a friend whats the issue?

Two things. Firstly, AIBU to edit friends pubes out of holiday photos <<< this title would have made the whole thread a lot easier for everyone.

Secondly, I highly doubt your friend zoomed into her own crotch to look for stray hairs, I highly doubt she will zoom in on your posted photo to check for stray hairs. Do what you like.

Just check with her. Then depending on the answer you can edit or put up the photo as is.

Er, can't see anyone being fine with bits of their bush online. I'd give her the heads up privately and just edit it. I don't understand why this has to be complicated.

I'm thinking only on MN would someone zoom in enough to see them then be worried others would zoom in enough

I would feel differently to most people in this thread as I would be mortified to realise that my pubes had been visible and made it into a photo! Yes everyone grows pubic hair but it doesn't mean we want everyone to see it.

In your friend's position I would much prefer not to have it pointed out and for you to quietly edit the photo and post the tidy version! I'd rather not know.

It seems so unlikely that she'd be offended because she would prefer her pubes to remain on display for posterity.