For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

Can you not just tell us what that something is?

She picked the photo.

Edited because I cross posted with you explaining what it is.

Yes, I'd ask her if she wanted me to edit out her pubes.

Added for context

There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers. The thing is I’m not sure if my friend noticed and she doesn’t mind or she didn’t notice. If it’s latter then I could get away with photoshopping it however if it’s the former she might be offended that I asked to edit it out.

Nobody is asking you to share the photo! Just explain what the issue is, and what you want to edit.

Eg she has redeye and I want to edit it out, or she has her legs crossed and you can see her vulva a la basic instinct, I want to edit that so it looks like shadow.

You want to edit out body hair on a photo she has said she's okay with?

Just upload it. She told you she's okay with it.

In light of the update - if I was your friend, I'd want you to edit. Definitely.

Is there hair somewhere you think it shouldn't be?

Whatever it is, contact her and say 'your armpit/bikini hair is showing' - I can photoshop it out if you like and wait for response.

You are friends - so this is what friends do, its like telling a friend her skirt is tucked into her knickers.

I don't do any waxing or anything. I have plenty of hair showing round a bikini. I'm not bothered. If you decided I should be bothered and photoshopped me for that reason I'd think you were being an absolute dick.

She's seen the photo, she approved it, she knows how much public hair she has. Leave it.

I was too slow typing. My response is the same. Tell her.

There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers

You can just say my mates got her pubes out.

Just edit them out, I dont think in any universe someone would want a photo posting with their pubes out.

Would seem the obvious solution!

Yep. In the words of Mumsnet "Use your words." Make light of it. "I was just putting the collection together for Instagram Sharon and noticed half your bush is hanging out in this one... do you want me to edit it or swap it for another one?"

Could you just crop the photo? Then you're not really editing anyone.

I was on holiday with my friend when we were in our 20s. She said to me one day 'Viva your knicker tache is showing' 😂 we had a giggle - it was fine - i wasnt offended.

Just ask her = honestly, she might not have noticed and would be more pissed off if you noticed and didnt say

Oh my god, stop talking in fucking riddles. You can say pubes ffs

Just ask her. But you don’t photoshop someone else’s body without their approval just because YOU don’t approve

Why are people like this? She could have told us this from the start, but nooOooooooOooo we got a ridiculous drip feed.

Just tell her you are a prude it would be simpler I just hope her ankles are not on show

Edit it OP, no need to say anything imo. I'd be grateful.

If she is your friend, I don't see why you didn't ask her already.
Women have hair, big whoop. Some women don't care, even bigger whoop. You appear to care but this doesn't give you the right to photoshop it without her permission. I can see why you would be concerned about appearing like an a-hole, because it is an a-hole thing to think that every woman wants and needs to be hair free for SM display. Still, I'd rather risk looking like that when asking a private question than going ahead and doing it for a public display without asking at all.

because it is an a-hole thing to think that every woman wants and needs to be hair free for SM display.
Oh come on, not many women want to show their pubic hair in photos.

Friend may have looked on phone and not zoomed in to notice such small details. I'd just mention and ask if she wants to leave as is or would prefer edited. I think to just edit it would be suggesting you believe is something wrong with it.

If this was me in a photo I would hope my friend would phone me and tell me.
Give her a ring op

This

I’d rather you messaged me and told me about my visible pubes, that would be the sound thing to do. She might just oh I don’t care leave them in or like me she might be morto and delighted for you to edit them out.