For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

[justforthispost1]

Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

Just do it. No one is going to zoom in on a photo that they're seeing for the second time to check on their pubes.

Christ just bloody ask her! 'Do you want me to photo shop your pubes out?' Simple.

Jesus Christ just tell her in a lighthearted way and gauge her response. "Sal, your pubes are showing!!" If she responds "Yeah hahaha" then leave it. If she responds "OMG how embarrassing" then offer to photoshop it.

Just message her "Hey friend. You look like you're smuggling a hedgehog in your bikini. Want me to edit them out?"
If she's a good friend, this should be something you can laugh about without being self-conscious.
My mates would definitely tell me.

Just edit it, resend it and say, actually I've edited some of them a wee bit, here's the new version. She likely won't know what's been done, just warm up the tones a wee bit as well or something like that.

smuggling a hedgehog

😂😂😂

Just message her.

“Hey Trish, your pubes are showing, want me to sort it?””

Trish will either respond:
”OMG yes please!”
or “nah pubes are natural! Down with the patriarchy!”

Job done. No drama.

Unless she's showing the pubes off to make a statement you can photoshop them if they bother you. But it's just body hair, we all got'em..

Actually I have worked in photography and body hair really doesn't offend as many people as you would think. There a whole movement of people proud of it who even want it accentuating not hiding.

Some are just feminists/punks, some from other cultures where hair isn't taboo and people expect body hair and sometimes as with everything its even a whole kink thing.

Fun fact: remember the massive bushes in 60s/70s porn? Removing hair only really became a thing to stop the outbreak of crabs in the late 80s originally. Places like Hollywood really suffered especially in the sex industry as such the porn stars, glamour models, rock stars etc... stared shaving and it caught on in fashion over the next decade or so. If your not at risk of crabs then its really not a huge issue.

yeah I'd 100% photoshop that. you're a good friend, so many people take pleasure in uploading embarrassing photos of people and making them feel shit about themselves.

If you're struggling this much with this dilemma, just don't post the picture. Is it really that important? Sounds like you have lots of nice ones.

YABU to photoshop another person because you don’t like the way they look. She did, she said she was happy to post it to social media so it’s not your business or place to go about criticising other people’s looks.

I don't agree with making people look different you might as well just pick a load of models and create a better fake.
If it's knickers in her dress or boob hanging out just say I've just noticed do you want me to photo shop it,? If she's just not pretty enough leave it.

Came on to say this!

Yeah I agree with this. Everyone is saying just ask her but some people (including me possibly!) would be really embarrassed to have it brought up. I would just quietly edit it

I can see why you are asking the question!

Either use a different picture, or, in the phrase that regularly tops Mn polls of 'irritating phrases', use your words. Ask her. If you genuinely think she just glanced at the photo on her phone and didn't notice her bikini was exposing hair, ask her.

'Hey friend, don't know if you noticed on the pic but do you want me to give you a bikini wax before uploading pic?'

Also yabu for being unable to say 'my friends pubes are on show'

If you're close enough frkends with someone to go on holiday surely you can just send a quick message and ask them?

Blimey, just ask her!

"Gorgeous photo of you, X! P. S. There are some pubes on show - want me to photoshop them out of the picture or leave them out and proud?"

@justforthispost1 If you word your question to her carefully and thoughtfully, it shouldn't be a problem just pointing it out to her and asking if she would like you to edit that bit out or whether she is happy to just let it be uploaded?

So did you notice the hair prior to taking the picture or did you zoom in?

Surely if this is a friend you would have an idea if something like this would bother her. If she’s very meticulous about her appearance and waxing, hair, nails etc then yes do it. If she’s pro body hair, fairly relaxed about her appearance then leave alone.

I'm another who'd rather not know. I'd be dwelling on the fact that I'd had them out for everyone to see the whole time.

I'd want you to get rid of them quietly and without bringing my attention to it.

Edit it!!
or crop it to exclude lower 1/2 of body.

we have a friend who seems to only post photos where she looks good, and someone else bad. We hate it, she could easily crop & fix, or not post ... rest of friends assume it’s fine on purpose.

"Friend, your pubes are visible in the pic you showed. Should I edit them out?"

Honestly, I'm struggling to see how editing then out without telling them would offend her. Editing her body to make her skinnier and whiter teeth without concent is offensive. Editing out a few pubes is not.

But since you're wondering just ask.