DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

Detach yourself from him and his approval.

YOU have taken a huge step to get healthy
YOU are the one having sucess
YOU are the one who will benefit and be able to wear all the clothes as well!
YOU are the one who will feel better and have a better quality of life

Hes obviously very resentful of your success especially as he feels so bad about himself - but that's not your issue.

Try not to focus on what he thinks or says and you'll mention it less so he'll feel less resentful.

I'd also say the less you talk about it, the easier it will be for his ego to admit that he wants to give it a try!

If he's being a grumpy child about it, he may be too stubborn to give it a go even though he's desperate to start having seen how well it's working for you!

What's his reason for not joining you? Is he afraid it won't work for him?
I must admit I almost didn't want to start because what if I still failed to lose weight? I'd have to accept being fat forever.
I think all you can do is keep going. Get your support from here (are you on any of the Mounjaro threads?) or Facebook or whatever, and continue to be encouraged and supported by your daughter. But it's your achievement and you are right to proud! Your DH probably feels a little threatened by your success, especially if it's making him feel badly about himself but he won't admit it.
Personally for me I'm concerned about the fact I no longer really drink alcohol. It's highlighting issues that have always been there and I'm not sure what the outcome will be.
When one person changes, even for the better, it threatens the status quo and there will be adjustments needed.

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I think you’re going to have to accept you’re not going to get the support from him this time, which is a shame to say that about your partner.
Bottom line is you can’t force anyone into making changes they have to want it themselves. He’ll join you if/when he’s ready.
could they jealousy be as he can’t afford mounjaro?

Thank you all :( it’s just sad because apart from online I don’t really have anyone else to talk to about it.

we can afford for him to do it if he wanted to. Iv offered lots to order it for him :(

Ok, I think you’ve done what you can and well done for your progress and being able to get into your jeans!

I’ve lost 3.5 without using anything, but now stalled and would like to lose final 2 st. Pls could I ask what mounjaro does that isn’t calorie restriction anyway?? Asking purely out of curiosity for my own circumstances. Hope that’s ok?

Is he concerned about the risks associated with it? Maybe he’s actually worried about what you’re doing to yourself long term.

Mumsnet is so pro this stuff you can’t even have a decent discussion about it. 🙄

I am just asking if this is what his issue with it is. That’s a perfectly reasonable question.

Surely the pp asking a question doesn’t mean she’s not supportive.
You're a bit prickly.

Not every reply to every thread has to support the op. I’d be concerned if my dh started to use them too. I think that’s reasonable. Yes there’s a lot of research showing positive effects but equally a lot of studies showing issues and you only have to look at the weight loss boards here to see people struggling with side effects etc. It’s naive to assume it’s all rosy.

Ok, going to get totally flamed for this but here goes.

If someone had lost loads of weight as a result of weight loss injections I wouldn't see it as any where near the achievement of grafting through rectifying diet and moving more.

Having said that, I actually don't disagree with the injections as weight gain is extremely complex.

But would I congratulate someone losing weight from injections in the same way as someone taking a traditional route? Just got to be honest and say no I wouldn't.

Why are you so angry? 🤷‍♀️ The thread is asking for opinions. That’s the point of posting!

But there can't be that much long term research because they haven't been in general use for that long? They have had some good research studies which have shown weight loss but a refusal to entertain the even remote possibility that there may be some negative isn't constructive debate! The world is littered with examples of drugs that have had unforeseen long term side effects.
OP has done brilliantly however and I can see how it's probably depressing for DH so he can't be happy for her. He's prob super sensitive because he knows he needs to lose the weight. But isn't.
It may be worth exploring with him what is driving his reluctance to use the drugs?

It’s all the man’s fault, surely?

🤣

Similar to those having gastric bands. Well done but it’s certainly not using the same degree of will power than those who’ve done it naturally.
I put on 2 stone through illness and meds. I’ve lost a stone but struggling to loose the rest. Feel guilty saying this but it’s galling to see how easy it is for some using mounjaro etc but the rest of us don’t have that option.

I don't know why he's not supportive but maybe he is struggeling to be because you are not fixing the root cause of the yo-yo dieting?

I have read threads on here by people who have lost a lot of weight with these injections but then when they have reached their goal and come off them they just gain weight again as the urge to eat and binge is still there in your brain. When you have continuously lost and gained 3-4 over and over again for many years there is something else deeper within you that needs fixing. Unless you fix that you will just continue to yo-yo but you will just do it faster with the drugs. It's a lot of money wasted that could have gone towards therapy instead with which you could have had a chance to actually fix the problem once and for all. Disordered eating is all in the head after all. Maybe you are doing a combination of drugs and therapy, but from what you have written it sounds more like you are happy that you have found a quick fix for the symptom, but you are not tackling the cause.

My DH is on Mounjaro, he wasn’t technically overweight enough but fibbed on the form. Honestly, he’s turned into a right bore now. As a non dieting partner (because I’m not overweight and already do a lot of exercise) it’s really dull eating alone, hearing all the pride at losing weight by making no effort. He hasn’t changed his lifestyle to maintain a lower weight once he comes off it.