DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

I'm afraid I feel a bit of sympathy for OP's DH.

Presumably he has a good reason for not wanting to use this weight loss method. Knowing he is overweight himself seeing his DW losing weight will probably be making him feel worse about himself. He will be noticing how well she is doing but it's probably too sore a point for himself to want to talk about it.

I feel OP should be gaining enough self confidence in her weight loss not to need her DH to endorse it. Her DH is probably feeling despondent about himself.

I think you need to solve the root cause of your anger.

It's an open forum. In AIBU. I am entitled to share my opinion and I have.

I can absolutely guarantee I won't be the only one who thinks this.

I am certainly not tiny, in fact I'm overweight myself. My opinion still stands.

Do you not realise losing 2 stone in a month is risky?

Mounjaro doesn't melt away the fat, you still have to put the work in, eat healthier, make better choices. I'm now averaging 2lbs loss per week but the food noise has gone, I still need willpower. Don't dismiss weight loss drugs as the easy option, for some it has been a life saver, at my heaviest a couple of years back I was touching 17 stone, losing and gaining a stone or 2. I'm now just under 13 stone, a couple more to go but I'm moving more, am fitter, the pain in my knees has gone. It's not a quick fix for all, you can't just eat, jab yourself and the calories don't count

@Buddenbruchs you have summed up my views completely. It's absolutely not that I don't think it's great they've taken charge and lost the weight, but it is no way the same as someone who hasn't had the injections.

I did not read this as a dig. Why so defensive? Rapid uncontrolled weightloss is dangerous to health

Some people have legitimate concerns about the injections. You're the one having a dig.

The research is also showing once people come off they struggle with extreme hunger.

And the studies about long term effects - doubt these have been tested since 40 years ago. Do you have no worries about what the impact will be in 40 years?

Honestly all drugs have side effects including paracetamol so to claim (as pp) that this drug miraculously hasn’t is BS. This aside I think your husband is probably just jealous.

I’m in the same boat that I’m on MJ and my DH won’t even consider it. We’ve both put on so much weight he would benefit, I’ve even offered to pay.

Its frustrating what a stigma there is attached to them.

I've previously stated I'm not necessarily against weight loss injections as I totally understand weight lis complex.

I would be pleased for the person having lost the weight on injections...but I wouldn't think "wow well done you" in the same way. Yes they have to make good choices still, but this is enabled by the fact that something external is doing the really hard graft for you.

The extreme hunger is true for me, I lost 5 stone last year with ozempic, but couldn't afford it for three months. I thought my body would be happy with the 1300 cals I was eating every day. It was not. The hunger pains and noise from my stomach was embarrassing and I quickly gained a stone back. I'm ordering Mounjaro today but I know it's going to be very difficult when I stop.

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease another angry comment

Unfortunately we are all looking for quick fixes but what needs to happen is a complete readjustment to how we see food as nutritious fuel for the body and a whole change to a healthy lifestyle that continues throughout life. Once you stop the injections will this still happen or will you just rapidly gain the weight again? I think as a quick fix it might help initially but can see many people yo-yoing on and off it for years. The change of mindset towards food is the only thing that will work long term but no one wants to do that as it involves way too much willpower.

If we have a bmi of 45 and have T2 are we allowed to be a bit more concerned that so many women are lying about their weight to get these injections online? You just need to read the threads to see many on bmi of 30 admitting they lied and worried they won't continue to get it from their supplier soon.

Maybe the NHS should be the only way to get them through prescribing them and monitoring them in person by actually weighing patients. As it is some regions won't prescribe them and others have 2 year wait lists.

OP your husband is clearly jealous, and is struggling with his reluctance to try Mounjaro vs his disappointment at how little weight he’s losing. You sound like you’ve become a bit evangelical about it. He probably felt confident in his decision not to use medication at first, and now he’s feeling rather foolish because you’re doing well and he isn’t. If he gives in and starts mounjaro, you might say “see, I knew you’d come around to the idea in the end”, and he can’t face the potential smugness. It’s obviously your right to celebrate a fantastic achievement, but if your concern is your husband, I’d just keep quiet about it, and let him work it all out for himself.

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease

No - but it's sure playing a massive part and the weight loss isn't down to your consistent hard graft and tackling the underlying issues is it.

I have a tendency to binge eat which makes me add weight. I know I need to tackle the psychological element first and foremost.

Weight loss injections are a sticking plaster over the real issues.

Ignore him and get on with it?

My husband was similar when I stopped drinking. If I ever said how long I had been sober he would say I didn’t need to keep going on about it and if he saw me reading self help books or listening to podcasts he’d say why was I doing that if I was happy being sober. I just let it go in one ear and out the other