DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

[WaffleDogg20]

God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

I'm truly fascinated that some people believe that congratulations from others for losing weight is a relevant factor at all. People want to lose weight because they will be healthier, happier and less likely to be judged harshly by others.

The latter point is perfectly clear from this thread. Fat people = lower moral standards. Slimming by suffering = just penance. Slimming by taking an easier way = cheating.

Quite.

Slated for trying to do something about our weight/health when all else has failed, I don't hear the same level of vitriol for those injecting themselves for vanity reasons i.e. botox/lip fillers etc.

Mad isn't it.

@FallenMadonnawiththeBadBoobies yes how very true!

Imagine all the pearl clutching now for those that have realised they may have congratulated an injector who didn't tell them they were injecting! I wonder if the congratulator feels cheated? 🤣

X 2 they are, Op and her hubby.

All drugs have side effects, and have to be broken down by the liver.

''Fatty liver disease, Pancreatitis and thyroid cancer'' are mentioned as potential side effects.

Lots of pharmaceuticals are toxic long term.

I thought you meant each but if they can afford it, it's up to them how the spend their own money.

There's a middle position.
You can recognise that white knuckle weight loss is all but impossible for many severely overweight people, and that these drugs can be literal lifesavers, while simultaneously knowing that modern medical science has done a lot of the heavy lifting for them: that's the whole point of these drugs.

If a morbidly obese friend dropped five stone on Mountjero I'd be genuinely delighted for her.
If she dropped the weight using will power and lifestyle changes alone I'd be delighted for her and also massively impressed.

However you lose weight is an achievement, nothing is a magic wand.
You need to weigh up the costs, the side effects and it still take a bit of willpower.

I am not on the injections and decided against them but it doesn't mean I won't reconsider.

I am going the Fast800 and I am finding that very good to follow. I am probably over the 800 calories more like 900/1000 calories per day but the food noise and cravings have stopped. I have had 1 biscuit in 5 weeks and no sugar cravings - this was my downfall. I fast between 8pm and 12pm. The recipes in the books are delicious. I am 12 lbs down in 5 weeks but I am a slow loser.
It is a med style diet with good amount of protein. This will be my new way of eating and I am going to keep it up.

So hats off to 2st, I am quite envious. Keep up the good work.

I was hitting 27stone. I doubt I would have been here in 40 years if I didn’t do something.

Boredom for sure!

It's very easy to eat sugary fatty salty snacks as they are so 'moreish' {To me anyway!}

Mum used to say when we were kids ''If you are hungry, have a slice of bread and butter'' or an apple.

If one is genuinely hungry, simple {nice} bread {or toast} and butter is edible.

But often one isn't genuinely hungry and one just wants the sweet/salt/fat hit.

Salted caramel ice cream from a gelato seller- delicious!

Appealing to the taste buds - ''A minute in the mouth- a month on the hips!'' {another of mum's sayings}

He is jealous OP. He could always justify his weight or diet failure when you were both 'in it together'. For whatever reason he doesn't want to do Mounjaro, but your success has shone a bit of a light on his own size and that he's not doing anything about it. It's not about judgement - the previous thoughts that he had that it was somehow 'ok' because you were in the same boat, he can't think those anymore. It's like he's sort of being forced to hold himself accountable, and he doesn't like it.

We tell ourselves all sorts of lies about why we can't lose weight, or that we'll lose it and put it straight back on etc. He's watching something that actually works in front of his eyes, and he can't avoid it. It's uncomfortable for him, and now out of pride he probably doesn't want to 'copy' you down the same road

It's probably best not to share your wins with him at all, because his reaction will really make you feel down about yourself.

I’ve heard others say though that they just don’t feel hungry?or feel fuller more quickly Or don’t care about food, the food noise thing. So it must be doing something to alter appetite otherwise what’s the point?

I agree with your last sentence, that's why I haven't shared with anyone that I'm taking Mounjaro plus some of the comments on this thread that it's cheating

Surely losing 2st in "almost a month" isn't normal, natural of healthy?

I know they aid weightloss, I know they have been literal life savers for some people but 28lbs in 4 weeks is ludicrous.

And to those of you who say people don't know you are on MJ. People know.

Sudden and noticeable weightloss is usually down to to one of two things? Illness or weightloss injections.

It's very normal/natural if your starting weight is nearly 27st like OP. This 1-2lb a week bollocks, Mounjaro or not, is not some across the board figure that applies to everyone.

Does anyone remember the swathe of programmes on TV circa 2000, Celebrity Fit Club, fat camp etc? There was always, always one that was much heavier than the others, usually a man, and his weekly weightloss would always be 2x that of the others. It's really unhelpful to come swooping in with judgements when you don't actually understand. You need to think of it more as % of bodyweight rather than a strict lb figure.

Full disclosure, I'm not on injections. I'm not even overweight. But I applaud those who are taking control of their weight and the misinformation from naysayers is really horrible.

My old slimming world rep once had someone who lost a stone in a week but I guess no judgement as they did it thr hard way?

But if you're really over weight, then that extra weight will drop off quicker, someone who is 20 stones will and can lose weight to begin with quicker than someone who is 10 stones because it's so excessive.

Or a VLCD like the Cambridge diet, or perhaps fasting too. Not always weight loss injections.

The OP is pretty unusual if she has lost more than 20lbs in a month, although being a bigger starting weight often sees a large drop in the first week or so, followed by more steady losses. If you look at the % of your starting weight, that is usually more representative than the raw total of pounds lost. I lost 9lbs in my first week, but that was a one-off, and now my weekly losses are in a more sustainable range.

@WaffleDogg20 I just would stop talking to him about the injections and weight loss in general, he is clearly not currently interested in trying to lose weight. I don't think it's jealousy, but it probably makes him feel bad that he is not losing weight, upset and self-critical perhaps. I would celebrate losses on the threads here on MN and if you have any trusted non-judgemental friends in real life with them.

Apologies, I didn't see the OP's starting weight.

The loss makes much more sense.

What risks? The side effects are minimal and there are benefits in addition to weight loss. He has more risk associated with being overweight

Sounds more like he’s jealous

@Crunchymum I've lost a stone in 1 month, I'm still in the same size 18 clothes, not one person has mentioned my weight, congratulated me or complimented me.
My belly is still wobbling, thighs still thundering at my current weight of 14 stones and 6lbs 🤷‍♀️

I didn't inject and wake up as thin as Kate Moss, I still have a way to go.

But if I was to discuss it and told you I've cut out alcohol and I'm calorie counting (which is 100% true), would you stand in front of me and tell me I'm lying or just gossip about me behind my back??

It's really good that you are seeing results op, but a shame that your dh doesn't share your enthusiasm.

If you can afford it and he's tried all the non medical ways of losing weight, then why wouldn't he be on board?

I have a friend who specialises in bariatric surgery, prescribes weight loss injections and runs a very successful clinic. His clients have left very positive reviews with before and after photos, and have commented about how life giving their treatment has been, and as a result have the confidence and energy to lead a healthier active life.

Someone upthread said it wasn't healthy to take weight loss drug, but from a patient's point of view, taking the injection and seeing results is surely far healthier than remaining obese to the point where you're in pain or discomfort doing basic everyday activities?

Absolutely. It’s easier to lose weight at a higher weight because your body uses up so many calories just to maintain at such a high weight.

well done op on your success so far. I have lost 5 stone on Mounjaro (over about 10 months). I have about another stone and I will be at a healthy bmi. It has changed my life and helped me get out of my rut.

Actually no. My two biggest losses were at the beginning, it's been the same on every diet I've been on, 2 big losses then evening out. Now I'm averaging 2 lbs per week and I've got a few more stone to go so it's not sudden or very noticeable, and it's going to take a while. But that's fine by me, I've usually given up by now