DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

The NHS can't afford to do this.

I am guessing that weight loss drugs prescribed privately are going to help improve the health of a fair percentage of the people taking them, thus reducing the pressure on the NHS. So win win for the NHS currently.

So can people only be congratulated if they have to ding it hard to lose weight?

I do agree with your last point however. That still does neeed to be addressed by a lot of people I’d imagine

Tbh like others have commented i wouldn't see losing weight via mounjaro/wegovy etc as half the achievement that it is to lose weight just via personal willpower, so perhaps your DH sees it sort of as 'cheating'?
He perhaps feels you've taken a shortcut so doesn't feel it warrants loads of praise etc.

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease

I'm working on it (and losing weight steadily). But I'm not going to choose the injections.

As sooo many people on this thread have said, it's not a long term solution as you put the weight on after coming off them.

I'm sure most people who are on them therefore aren't tackling the underlying causes if they're losing weight with injections.

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease if you feel better believing that, crack on. But I assure you it couldn't be further from the truth.

Not for me it wasn't. The side effects for me were crippling panic attacks that had me lying awake with fear rippling through me and my heart racing at 140 BPM.
I appreciate that OP isn't describing that situation but for some people there are significant side effects which people who are evangelical are glossing over. 11 people have died by suicide due to mental health crises thought to be directly linked to these injections (not just mounjaro) and quite a few other attempted.

I am concerned about mounjaro because I have never experienced anxiety like it, and it's not really acknowledged.

And again! Losing weight is supposed to be a hard miserable slog

Jeez I’m glad my family and friends are more supportive of me doing what I can to improve my health

as for “you’ll just put it all back on” (a) happens with other means of weight loss (b) is it a reason not to even try and live a while at a healthier weight?

How odd.
Why do you care?

Only the rich are allowed to lose weight. OK got it.

Fat and poor = jealous
Fat and rich losing weight on injections = amazing, well done.

Would some people have the same attitude to those with MH issues using medication? Would they think the person is taking the easy route rather than eg exercise, mindfulness, CBT?

Also a comment by a pp about those around BMI of 30 lying to get the drugs - so what? If there's no supply issues what difference does it make to you? BMI of 30 is still in the obese category (27 for some ethnic groups) and associated health risks. We've really lost sight of what a normal size should be.

I'm the biggest over sharer in the world but I don't really talk to anybody else about my mounjaro journey. Once a week I tell my DH in passing that it's the day of my injection ( mates me tired and vv burpy/farty) and if I've lost weight and that's it. Oxidant my sister will actively ask how I'm getting on. I tell her over 2-3 minutes and that's it. In a lot of ways there is nothing worse than somebody harping on about their latest " thing " , especially if you are in a different path to them. I don't think it matters why your DH isn't doing this with you, it's a valid choice he's made just like yours is. If you are seeking validation then it definitely mates sense to do it elsewhere and just not discuss it with him.

It's not that it's supposed to be a hard miserable slog it's just that you aren't actually dealing with the dispordered eating at all by doing these injections. You are just throwing money at an expensive way to remove a symptom of a cause that will remain with you once you have stopped the injections. You would be much better off paying for therapy and then slowly lose the weight by changing your diet pattern and exercise. By doing the injections you won't have fundamentally changed anything about yourself or learnt strategies to keep this up long-term.

Well of course let’s not encourage debate shall we!!

op I think if think about why you need his approval, not saying you are wrong to want it but you don’t need it. For him well you can understand why he’s not encouraging, he probably is jealous or resentful.

Its not so much supposed to be a hard slog.... More that if it wasn't that much of a hard slog why do you need the cheering and praise and gold stars for it?
The weight loss in itself isn't the thing being praised usually, its the hard work people had to put in to achieve it?

Well yes , what are you congratulating? It’s like congratulating someone for their weight loss after a stomach bug when the reason is they didn’t feel like eating. Not saying it’s not a good thing to lose weight for health and it’s I am sure a scary step to start the injections not knowing if you’d have an adverse effect. We congratulate achievement don’t we, not eating because you don’t feel hungry isn’t an achievement. Keeping it off and changing eating habits is to be congratulated.

How ridiculous - of course people can have an opinion on things they don't have direct experience of. Isn't that how life works? You just don't like that other people have different opinions from you.

Losing weight and increasing her life expectancy, that sort of long term impact?

What are the risks associated with it then? List them out

I sat on the fence for quite a while before deciding to use weight loss injections.

And for those of you who haven't used it, maybe you do just have better willpower and a better ability to avoid the food noise that runs constantly through you mind when dieting so well done to you.

For me personally, the food noise was soul destroying. A constant stream of....

"No, I'm not hungry, don't eat crap, ooo there's biscuits in the cupboard, no ignore that, don't think about the biscuit, omg how many calories are in this? Can I have that to eat and still be in my calories? Omg I've gone over my calories, so bloody useless. Does that waitress think I'm just a fat pig? Omg, I'm so useless and such a failure, why can't I just lose weight, what's wrong with me?"
And repeat!

I've been using the injections since the beginning of August and the food noise has just stopped, gone and it's truly a bloody relief!

I'm listening to my body, when I eat now, I concentrate on protein and fueling my body rather than anything else.

Using the injection has given me the breathing space to do this in a way that has never happened before and I've been dieting since I was probably 12, I'm 44 now, I'm tired so if there is something that can help me, why would I not use it if I can?

I've done it the hard way before, counting every calorie, exercising 6 days a week with swimming, hiit, weight training and the weight has just piled back on again.

We all know it's eat less, move more, but using the injection allows me to concentrate on just that.

I can't just sit on my arse and eat fatty, shit food and still lose weight, that's just not possible for me whilst injecting, I have to be careful of what I eat so as not to have the bad side effects of stomach cramps and diarrhoea which I obviously don't want.

Also, the weight doesn't just drop off, I've had gains here and there too, stayed the same weight for a few days. It's not inject and wake up a size 10, there's still plenty of 'work' to do.

I think the weight loss injection is just one of those things that is going to cause a divide but for me personally, I'm happy to use so I can work on my relationship with food without having to deal with the noise in my head at the same time.

I do agree the underlying issue needs to be resolved. For me for example I know I switched my alcohol addiction sugar. I am actually seeking help with that too. Being on MJ gives me the peace in my head to be able to do that.