DH and me on Mounjaro weightloss injections

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God I’m so fed up.

Usually my husband and myself diet together. We’ve done every diet under the sun and we support each other through it.

This time I decided to start mounjaro and he hasn’t. He’s not comfortable with his body what so ever and claims he’s the biggest he has ever been but won’t join me on this and doesn’t seem to be making any changes.

It feels like he’s jealous of me losing weight. He says I talk about it all the time but I don’t, he rolls his eyes when I mention anything iv lost, he never asks me how much iv lost or how am I doing. He’s not acknowledged any change in me. I tried a pair of jeans on today that I couldn’t even get up a few months ago and now I can do up! I told my daughter first and then went downstairs to tell him and all he said was “I heard you upstairs”.

iv been on it a month now and lost nearly 2 stones. Iv been unable to tell him or speak to him about how im feeling because he just says “you do talk about it a lot” I bloody don’t.

It’s really really getting me down. He’s making me feel embarrassed and ashamed for losing weight and being proud of myself. I don’t know what to do 😞

What do the injections consist of?

But as others said losing weight on MJ does still take work and effort. I could still have croissant for breakfast, chips for linch and a takeaway for dinner on the drugs. And wouldn’t lose weight. I have to still make healthy choices or I won’t lose weight.

personally I don’t care if people congratulate me or not and tbh most people don’t know I’m on MJ anyway. I keep my medical treatment private.

You're very judgemental of people who are struggling to lose weight and haven't taken the injections. They are expensive and not everyone can afford to rejig their budget.

I'm aware of the attitude of being fat so I must suffer - a GP told me I should pay for the injections as it would be less than I spend on food! I do not spend £200 a month on food. He also wasn't offering any support or advice when I asked about the conflict with any of my medication or which one would be best as I am T2. I have been on the waiting list for 2 years for them.

Thankfully another GP took me off gliclazide and put me on oral semaglutide. The risk of pancreatitis is increased due to other conditions. The injections aren't the answer for everyone but us fatties will take the risks because of the worse stigma of being fat.

I imagine it's tough for DH because every improvement for you comes with an implicit side-order of "so why don't you do the same you stubborn fat biffer". Even if you're genuinely not thinking it (though from your OP it sounds like you really are), that's what he's hearing. You need to get through this as a couple because it would be easy for him to get entrenched in his opposition, or maybe he's never going to change his mind on this.

@NeedSomeAnswersPlease but that is really obvious that boredom can lead to overeating, don’t need an injection to tell you that.

It's interesting the number of people who think losing weight with injections is 'cheating' or 'not doing it properly' compared to losing weight the 'traditional' way.

Part of the chemical process behind the injections is to make the body's insulin production more efficient and stabilise blood sugars. Indeed, many of the medications available were initially conceived as a treatment for diabetes.

Someone who is genetically predisposed to be insulin resistant (which is often undiagnosed) can be eating the right things and exercising, but their body simply can't burn fat as efficiently as someone without any insulin resistance, and holds onto the fat instead. Aggressively restricting calories is just going to make them feel very tired and ill, to the point where they struggle to function at work and in family life.

Would you also say that someone with a genetic predisposition to high cholesterol is cheating and not doing it properly if they eat the right things but still need to take statins? Should they just try harder, or accept the high cholesterol levels and live with the consequences, because other people can reduce cholesterol with minor adjustments to their diet?

Would you say that someone with low pain tolerance who needs pain relief when giving birth is cheating and not doing it properly? Should they just live with the trauma of intense pain, because other people are able to give birth without pain relief and it not particularly bother them?

The way I see it is the injection is a tool to aid you to reach your goal of a healthy weight. Personally I’d be happy just to reach that goal, and don’t need constant praise and congratulations. I’ve dieted the hard way, slowly, and it’s still crept back on, and think any tool that can help can only be a good thing. Just like a smoker using a patch to stop smoking. They don’t slap on a patch and instantly have no urge to smoke, it just helps dial it down a bit. Why should you have to suffer to lose weight? Seems a very weird perspective to me. That said no one is interested in your weight loss journey other than yourself and like minded people on the same journey using the same tools, whatever those tools might be - WW, SW, Cambridge diet, calorie counting or injecting and so on.

It was reviewed in which magazine which said OK BUT you need to do it alongside strength training or you lose muscle mass (around 30-40% of any weight you lose on any diet is muscle mass unless you strength train and are actively telling your body you need muscle tissue because muscle tissue burns more calories at rest, it is a more expensive body tissue to maintain so the body will ditch it, most of burning lean muscle mass happens when you sleep). Also the injection only works as long as you take it. The key is whether you can sustain the weight loss afterwards. If you regain weight, you never regain muscle mass unless you are strength training, you just regain body fat and can therefore end up in a worse position I.e. with a lower % of muscle mass to fat ratio, muscle burns calories at rest than fat, so this then lowers your daily TDEE ( the amount of calories you need to lose or maintain weight, making dieting harder in future as you lose more nutritional content from food on less calories). And muscle mass is vital for healthy ageing and hormone synthesis. It's IMHO the biggest con of the diet industry that this isn't clearly explained.

If you haven't already come and join us on the Continuing Mounjaro... Part 21 thread.

Your husband isn't being supportive of you. He's being really jealous. That's entirely a him problem and not a you problem. He has the choice to decide what he does and says about his own health but he is being controlling if he tries to dictate to you what you can say or do.

Even if you were talking about it all the time it is a very big part of your life and so it would be natural to talk about it.

Please come join us on our thread if you aren't already on it, we are so supportive and down for a chat all hours of the day whether that's because you want to get something off your chest, have questions or even want to celebrate a loss or need advice about stalls.

So you take pot shots at other people who have struggled with their weight all their lives to make them feel bad for not taking them.

Some things you have to do on your own through self motivation and weight loss is one. No amount of talking about it is going to help, cut your DH some slack.

Really? Who knew?

Not everyone agrees with weight loss drugs which is probably why he isn't on them. I wouldn't be celebrating someone taking a drug to lose weight either when I don't think it's healthy. I'm sure if you lost it naturally he would celebrate with you.

I think @Princessandthepie has summed up perfectly how these injections have helped.
As fat people we are used to being judged, even when we do something positive to loose weight.
To those saying it isn't an achievement and we haven't worked for it in the same way, would you feel the same about someone who had taken anti depressants to help them overcome depression as opposed to just doing it in their own? Being overweight all your life is complicated and as well as the insulin resistance there are many physiological issues involved which the injections can help give you clarity to work on.
Anyway op, you're doing marvellously but your dh obviously isn't ready to try this, it can be a very big thing for some people, it took me several months of thinking about it before taking the plunge.

Tbf I think the people getting the help should be the obese poor. Who can’t afford the gym, in low paying jobs, surviving off cheap, processed food. They’re the folk that fill up the hospital wards with the horrendous side effects of T2 diabetes etc. I find it mind boggling that pps can afford £500 per month on these injections and yet the ones who seriously need it have to jump through hoops to get it on the NHS and can’t afford it privately.

I agree. I wouldn't congratulate someone for losing weight with weight loss drugs either.

£500 a month? Where from

I’m on injections, I’m a slow loser but tbh I just don’t ever talk about it or mention it. Possibly because it’s taking ages and the changes are slow so theres not much to say. He should be encouraging you regardless but I would just stop talking about it. It may not be the injections it may just be that living with anyone on a diet or losing weight can get a bit boring. He’s used to be being part of it so you inevitably discuss what you are eating or how much you have lost.

Several posters have talked about getting it for their partners as well. I thought it was about £250 per month per patient ?

Depends on the dosage the last pen I ordered (7.5mg) was £150

@Daisypod thank you

@Buddenbruchs injections are not £500 a month

Tbh, I seriously need it. I had a BMI 50 when I started these.

I am happy to pay though and would even if the NHS were prescribing freely.