Mil forcing dinner

[Pleeeeaaasehelp]

I’ll make it brief. Mil has never liked me, never really tried to hide it even in front of the kids( constant rudeness and belittling). We don’t see her often as she lives abroad. She’s not your normal Gma, never Birthday or Xmas gifts! But every time we do see her someone ( usually more than one!) ends up in tears when she leaves.
Now the kids are all young adults they don’t want anything to do with her. They pretend phones aren’t working etc…. However that comes back on me.. I’ve turned them against her.
I really haven’t.
For 30 years I’ve put up with her emotional abuse.
Anyway…. She’s coming over, demanding a family meeting about how badly she is treated in this family.
I’ve finally decided I can’t face her anymore and I don’t want to go. I’ve spent 27 years saying to DH it’s only a week, it’s your mum etc…. ( He gave up years ago)
Aibu.
Go She’s old, you’ve put up with it for this long…..

Uanbu. Don't go, let shit hit the fan, but know you’ve been forced a death by a thousand cuts

I'd want to know. Especially before MiL's next visit to the UK!!

Random shit she pulls when she's far away I could probably ignore. But if she's going to pull her same antics next time she comes over, I'd want to know what DH said to her so I could either back him up or counter it with plans of my own.

I’d also want to know. Not the finer detwils
maybe but I’d want to know if he challenged her behaviour and whether he told her not to hassle his children at their lave of work etc

on the basis of how simpering he’s been for the last three decades, I reckon he just said to his mother that the OP was going through the menopause, was in a highly emotional and unstable state, and that for his mothers own safety she would give them some space

but she will be back and once again it will be up to one of the children to deal with her as the OP and DH look on trembling!