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To make a birthday cake and not cut it

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Miaowm · 01/09/2024 19:12

I want to make my daughter’s birthday cake as I do every year. This is the first year she will
be having a party with friends and family at a venue. I wanted to take the cake for singing and then hand out matching cupcakes. Is this out of order?
A couple of reasons for this, not really anywhere suitable to cut the cake at the venue and I really don’t want a cake I’ve spent ages on to be crushed in a party bag then thrown away

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Dinosaurlover · 13/09/2024 17:59

Miaowm · 13/09/2024 17:49

I am taking a cake which will be themed buy in no way large enough to feed all the kids. It will be shared by the family that come back with us after. The children won’t know and the adults will have other refreshments to enjoy.
The cake is also an allergy cake so may not be enjoyed by everyone

If course they will know.

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Miaowm · 13/09/2024 18:23

Arrivapercy · 03/09/2024 16:49

What op is talking about is showing off the fancy cake at the party then whisking it away and giving the guests something else, which is weird

Its this. If you think the fancy cake is impractical - do cupcakes or biscuits. The weird bit is doing the large cake to show it off.

It isn’t a large cake to show it off. It’s a themed cake my daughter has asked for and it’s her birthday after all. I won’t be able to create a cake large enough to serve everyone I’m not a professional - a traybake is actually a great idea

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Miaowm · 13/09/2024 18:23

Dinosaurlover · 13/09/2024 17:59

If course they will know.

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You think 3 year olds can tell if they have a piece of the main cake or not? Hmm impressive

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Dinosaurlover · 13/09/2024 18:46

Miaowm · 13/09/2024 18:23

You think 3 year olds can tell if they have a piece of the main cake or not? Hmm impressive

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Absolutely they can. Even if they can't though, their parents will and you'll be labelled as the show off cheapskate who thought her guests weren't good enough to eat the proper cake.

BIossomtoes · 13/09/2024 18:59

Miaowm · 13/09/2024 18:23

You think 3 year olds can tell if they have a piece of the main cake or not? Hmm impressive

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They’ve got eyes. Of course they can tell, their parents definitely can.

BarbaraHoward · 13/09/2024 19:44

Miaowm · 13/09/2024 18:23

You think 3 year olds can tell if they have a piece of the main cake or not? Hmm impressive

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They can, and their parents definitely can.

BarbaraHoward · 13/09/2024 19:45

Twittens · 05/09/2024 18:04

This is what I do for all of my children’s parties… I make themed cake of their choice, take it, have candles and the children sing. I also make themed cupcakes to match the cake, which are as beautifully decorated, and individually boxed before we get to the party… that way I can be fully present throughout the party. The main cake then comes home for our family party, so no wastage… and no trying to hastily cut up and wrap cake to stuff into party bags… it literally breaks me when we attend parties and people wrap cake in napkins or kitchen roll… transforming a beautifully moist piece of iced cake into something resembling old cardboard and mush by the time it gets home…

Cupcakes are a great idea, especially if you're not eating the cake at the party. But then you put the candle in the birthday child's cupcake, or put all the cupcakes together with candles in a few etc.

Bringing a birthday cake to a birthday party and not cutting it is just rude, it's not the etiquette at all.

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