Would you go nc with your parents for this

[giantcolouringbook]

I am 23(f) and work f/t my company have been offering compresses hours which I have happily accepted bearing in mind I get paid the same and do the same hours but an extra day off plus weekends.
I excitedly told my parents this and they are furious saying that I should have discussed it with them first as it affects them too.
They've also said if I'm going to be home an extra day of in the week I need to do something with it and not just hang around the house.
My dad is retired and spends every day hanging around the house doing nothing.
Aibu to think a) this has nothing to do with them and b) I shouldn't be told to go out and do something when I am looking forward to an extra down day at home doing exactly what my dad does?
I am of course looking to move out asap but would you think there was any coming back from this or should I just move on never look back.

My dad is retired and spends every day hanging around the house doing nothing.

Lol.

you're 23 and you work full time. You COULD get your own place, you know which would negate the whole "affects the parents too" thing.
Now, if you DON'T want to move out, welp....their house their rules and whatnot.

be independent or expect to be treated like you're not.

' when I am looking forward to an extra down day at home doing exactly what my dad does? '

isn't the Op saying she wants to spend this ' day off ' watching tv with Dad and gardening - as that is what her retired dad does ...

and clearly the parents don't want the adult child sitting around all day watching tv with Dad, and helping him do the gardening - which is clearly the retired person's hobby.

maybe they could get an allotment together ? what do you think @giantcolouringbook

Clearly it is hurtful to hear that your parents don't want you around for an extra day. But you don't know why, and you may be wrongly guessing that it's because they disapprove of you rearranging your working hours. You could ask them both what the impact is on them when you're in the house during the day, and really listen to the answer. Now that my partner and I are older (sixties and seventies), we find it tiring having even much loved family members in our space for long periods and look forward to downtime when we can quietly do our own thing. Maybe it sounds selfish to you, but after decades of bringing up their children your parents may just want their own space. Your relationship might be better if you moved out because they would be delighted to visit you or be visited. Doesn't mean they don't love you or that they disapprove of you. Do talk to them.

I can’t believe this is real. Move out, and stop comparing yourself, a 23 year old just starting out, a retired man who has worked all his life, paid his dues, and owns his own house, you cheeky sod. Get your own place and you can sit around watching tv as much as you want.

Op

I think it's clear from your parents reaction that they maybe hoped you'd be a little independent at this stage of your life. You don't mention friends and appear to spend most of your free time in what is their house. I most older people wouldn't chose to live with their adult children regardless of how much they love them. I think it sounds like you moving out would push you out of your comfort zone a. It and force you in to finding interests and hobbies. It's both good for anyone your age to be hanging out with their parents all the time.

"23" is all I needed to read to say wth?! Get out and make your own life your way. You're an adult and fully grown one at that!

Imho you should have left at 3 years earlier. Time to get busy building your future and learning to live on your own but...

BUT!!!

Be nice about it. Ask for their experiences doing it when they first moved out first to give them a clue you are thinking of flying the coop. In this way they opught to be supportive but if they are not then you have to ask yourself what's in it for them to keep you home and what would it benefit you if their reason did not exist. Create a list of pros and cons before jumping and decide on a timescale for moving out but MOVE OUT is going to happen anyway so bank on that. Consider also how much it's going to cost you to become independent of
anyone and the benefits of that which you've probably not considered before.

Youre an adult so move on but dont throw a tantrum. This is just tje kind of issue an adult has whilst still living in the nest. Its time to move on but pls do it with a smile - daft issue to fall out over

I think their reaction is hurtful,they need to have a conversation with you if they want more privacy than they are getting at present. Your relationship would then at least be open and honest and if you lived apart it would improve.
I don’t think to be living at home at 23 is a problem myself, I would feel uncomfortable with this reaction.
I hope all works out for you