To be so over my tight, selfish DH every birthday

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I turned 57 yesterday. Birthday was a text from husband saying sorry for using last of milk, whoops happy birthday, kids up late, a card eventually. No card from DH, bottle of Lidl wine and a bunch of flowers. Booked dinner out for tonight but cancelled because DH work, rebooked for tomorrow, having had ‘well, I’m not bothered, but if YOU REALLY WANT TO’.

FB scrolling tonight I see a string quartet Coldplay concert by candlelight, not too far away, in an old priory, say ‘ooh, I’ve found a birthday pressy’ and his response was ‘hmph, not my sort of thing’..then ‘what, instead of dinner? What did you get me?’ (30 yr old scotch, dinner out with wine and a book actually’.

I fucking love Coldplay but will ever be able to afford to see them live, I thought this would be a lovely evening and cheapest tickets are £21 each.

Am I being stupid and unreasonable to just fucking want to be spoilt for one fucking birthday? My family have always been hard up so I’ve not had one birthday where it feels like a celebration.

I know this is first world problems, but am I being unreasonable to want to feel the centre of the world for ONE day?

Love this. Our very own MN Blind Date.

You need more friends OP if you have a DH like this. Can anyone really be as “draining” as your DH?

Oh wow OP, that's a fantastic update. What a lovely Mumsnetter to do that with you and hopefully that will become a good friendship for you both.

As for twat husband, no more birthday presents and meals out for him. Save the money you would have spent on him to treat yourself on your birthday.

Brilliant update. So glad you had a lovely time.

So glad to hear this 😊

My new favourite MN post!! Such a lovely outcome ❤

Lovely update op. Op with these mean people do not make a fuss of his going forward! Glad you had a nice evening.

Amazing outcome op well done he is a selfish man

I wouldn't dream of not doing something nice for my dh birthday this year ahead for January I've bought him

Driving car experience
Comedy show for 2.
Silverstone experience museum
Bailys
Chocolate box
And hopefully a ticket to support his favorite football team !
Meal out

My dh always does something similar for me
Hopefully you do more well deserved things for yourself