To be so over my tight, selfish DH every birthday

[IAmMyUtterLackOfSurprise]

I turned 57 yesterday. Birthday was a text from husband saying sorry for using last of milk, whoops happy birthday, kids up late, a card eventually. No card from DH, bottle of Lidl wine and a bunch of flowers. Booked dinner out for tonight but cancelled because DH work, rebooked for tomorrow, having had ‘well, I’m not bothered, but if YOU REALLY WANT TO’.

FB scrolling tonight I see a string quartet Coldplay concert by candlelight, not too far away, in an old priory, say ‘ooh, I’ve found a birthday pressy’ and his response was ‘hmph, not my sort of thing’..then ‘what, instead of dinner? What did you get me?’ (30 yr old scotch, dinner out with wine and a book actually’.

I fucking love Coldplay but will ever be able to afford to see them live, I thought this would be a lovely evening and cheapest tickets are £21 each.

Am I being stupid and unreasonable to just fucking want to be spoilt for one fucking birthday? My family have always been hard up so I’ve not had one birthday where it feels like a celebration.

I know this is first world problems, but am I being unreasonable to want to feel the centre of the world for ONE day?

This is an amazing update! I love how you took back control from the whole situation.

Absolutely agree!

@IAmMyUtterLackOfSurprise i hope this is just the first update….

This was the best update I think I've seen on here. 💖

Great update! What a lovely lady to go with you. I hope you become good friends 🧡

What a fantastic update!

Now that's a really fabulous update! Fair made me smile! Well done mystery MNer!! 😍

I love this thread 😀

Wow, fantastic. What a lovely place MN can be.

Oh, I missed this thread at the time. A new friend, a wonderful evening out. MN at its best
And hopefully the jealous, backtracking husband has an epiphany and starts giving a shit. It not, well, everyone here knows the answer is LTB!

Brilliant end to your story, so glad you had a lovely evening.

What a lovely update, glad you had a good evening and found a new friend!

Lovely update. Good for you. Hopefully start of new adventures.

What a lovely update. My first smile of the day.

This.

I think you mean 'rethink whether you're still together for his birthday next year'

This is lovely! I’d love a coldplay string quartet by candlelight. Really good to hear you enjoyed it and found a new buddy out of it, too!

Love this! Glad you had a good time xx

Fantastic!!!

Why don't you now make a new tradition to take yourself out alone or with a friend every year for your birthday treat.

Wonderful update!

My DP is an extreme tightarse, but yours takes the biscuit for being totally disrespectful of what you might deserve on your birthday.

Awh how lovely!

Brilliant update, I love this. Hope you have many more adventures

Brilliant update 😊

What a lovely update! Hurray for Mystery Mumsnetter. You've made a lot of people smile!