Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

Strangely selfish - yes.

It's your DH's holiday too...

Nothing wrong with you being done for the day, but no need to stop them going out if they want to.

Yeah very early. Plus it's their holiday too so why stop them from going out?

The solution is u go to bed and they go down to the lounge

You don’t see any point going out, so he shouldn’t go out? Eh? Why?

Why did you demand that he stays in the room with you. What would the issue be with him going downstairs to the lounge for a while with your DD.

I’d say you are being controlling rather than strange.

Yes you are. If you want to go to bed that's fine but why should they?

Why could you not have stayed and dh gone? We recently went away and I took toddler dd to a kids disco in the entertainment area one evening and dh and my son didn't come and did something else. Families don't always need to be together on holiday

You can go to bed - it doesn’t mean your DH and 10 year old have to stay in the room.

Very.

I love the idea of bed at 8.30pm personally. I don't see the need to request your DH and child stay in to keep you company. Why should they?

agree with all PP. no need for him to stay in with you.

Why can't they explore?

#meanie

Yes. Why can't they go out? It's not that late.

If you want to stay in then stay in but I dont think it's fair to insist on others doing the same. 8.30 is early in my opinion. What did the children say or where they not asked?

So bizarre and controlling. You might not see the point in going out at this time, but he obviously does.
Or is this a reverse?

More fool him for staying in on your say so. No way would I have done that.

Am not a regular on this site, so maybe I'm missing the obvious, but why couldn't they go without you? Also, yes, turning it at half eight is not particularly social

How selfish

Why can't they go out just because you don't want to?

I'd be packing them off out the door and settling down with a good book

I also go to bed early - I usually get up 04:30-0500- but I wouldn’t make anyone else stay in the room or go to bed early. Especially on holiday. YABU for that reason, not for wanting to go to bed early.

Rereading, this is obviously a reverse.

Provided they are up, ready to have fun tomorrow and not tired and grumpy, why can’t they go out?

Huh? Why couldn't they go without you?

'Took some convincing' aka guilt tripping / controlling