Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

Bizarre !!! And yes too similar to a thread the other week !!!

So fucking annoying doing a reverse. Just say your husband is going to bed and you want to go out. Which you should do

Why would you make them stay in because you want a child's bedtime? That doesn't sound like much fun.

Fine for you to want to chill in the hotel room, but YABU to expect the rest of the family to do the same.

What on earth made you think DH and DC shouldn’t go out?

Didn’t the reverse of this get posted just a couple of weeks ago?

8.30 bedtime sounds brilliant to me. Those who want to go to bed, go for it. Those who don’t, go out. Simple.

We are in a strange city, we,ve never been here before. I was worried DH would end up going out of the hotel.

I relented, and asked them to go and they said they'll be back before 10.

Strange city, which makes me nervous.

i relented
Are you joking?

Surely being in a new city is a great reason to explore?!

Presumably your husband is a grown adult man who could cope being in a new city? I really don’t see the problem at all. We are on hols and have been staying up/out until midnight even with two primary age kids- they’ve loved it! 8:30 is insanely early on holiday and making others as you’re worried they might leave the hotel is really abnormal behaviour.

This. 😳

What? What do you mean by strange city? Why are you scared of him leaving the hotel?

Can you perhaps prevent a whole thread of drip feeding and say what's really going on because it's not making much sense/you're not being at all rational?

You are married to an actual grown up you know.

Everything about this is strange. 🤔

You sound like my mum (who goes to bed at 830pm which is a downer on holiday!). But you are way more controlling

If my husband wouldn’t let me out of the hotel room with my child after 2030, then ‘relented’ and let me stay out until 2200, he wouldn’t be my husband anymore.

Are you holidaying in Baghdad?

Egypt? Israel?

How strange is the city?

are you in J’burg?

It's fine for you to go to bed, but why spoil their fun?

Sounds controlling and unreasonable rather than weird.

Doesn't sound like much of a holiday. Have you checked the safe for their passports? 😉

I am being perfectly rational. I get worried, it's normal.

Which city?
Surely your husband is an adult and able to judge if it's safe to take your daughter out of the hotel!