Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

You persuaded your DH not to take your DD to the hotel lounge, so they are now stuck in a room from 830, because you want to go to bed? Are they allowed to talk or watch TV or does everyone go to bed when you're tired?

Yes you are being strange and controlling.
Why do you need your dh and child to have an early night just because you want one?
Your child would probably love a late night and to go off with her Dad to the lounge.

Massively unreasonable. And, I'd have said no to you.

Me too!

Yeah that's weird. Even if you didn't fancy it your DH could have gone down with your DC

Strange yes.

Controlling definitely.

Catch yourself on for goodness sake.

Yes. Very selfish.
You may want an early night but it doesn’t mean everyone does.
Why ruin their fun? You don’t have to be glued together for the duration, do you?

Going to bed early - fine. Insisting that everyone else do the same - not fine.

Me three

Why do a reverse post, people would give the same answer regardless.

YABU. Fine for you to go to bed at 8:30 but why should your husband and son have to sit twiddling their thumbs in a hotel room? It just seems so selfish for you to insist they stay in just because you don’t want to go out.

You go to bed
They go out
Simples

You sound very selfish

Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time

That's such an odd reason op. So yes, I think yabu.

We're not long back from a 10 night AI holiday - beach/pool by day, standard AI entertainment from 8.15-11.

We all went out some evenings. One evening dh stayed in, i went out with 3 dc. Another night I stayed in with ds3 and dh went out with the two eldest. One night dh, ds3 and I went back straight after dinner and the two teens stayed to watch the karaoke alone.

All absolutely fine as tiredness hits people at different times. But it's weird to expect everyone to miss out just because you don't fancy it.

You don't see the point in going out after 8.30 on holiday? Eh?!

Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time.

No one was asking you to go out.

Yeah this is a reverse. I still don't know why people think they can do these well.

This, are you going to demand they all sleep/sit in silence. HUGELY controlling.

I have never grounded my dh before!! What an absurd marriage..

Why can't he go out?

Is this a reverse of the thread we had last week when DH didn't want to go out after that time?!!

Saying that we know a family who are in bed by 8pm. Every night. Even on holiday. Because they like to get up at 4am to start their day. Each to their own I guess. But on holiday? ...

Or why they bother doing them at all!

Obviously.

So yes OP your DH is being a dick for insisting that you stay in the room cos he wants an early night. I assume that's what you wanted to hear?

It's fine for you to go to bed, I don't get why DH & DC aren't allowed to go to the lounge. That's very controlling.