Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

Or will they be ambushed by pirates ☠️ at any given time?🤪

You relented? How very gracious of you.
Trip trap

Yes, this sums it up.

I also love an early night but wouldn't dream of instructing others to sit in hotel room while I slept

It’s not normal to worry about an adult and 10 year old pottering around a new place on holiday between 8:30-10:30pm.

Are you on holiday in a war zone?

You said they were going down to the lounge, I was thinking coke and crisps with some background music, how dangerous is this place?

Ah. Oh dear. I'm really sorry but this level of worry about leaving a hotel room in a city not known for being dangerous isn't a normal level if worry, as you can see from the replies you're getting.

It really isn’t normal, you’ll pass this anxiety onto your children. Unless your husband has some history of disappearing or not being a capable adult then you are being hugely controlling

Isn’t your DH so lucky that you relented ??

Surely given you’re on holiday in a city by a lovely beach, you’d want to take an evening stroll around, maybe have a drink sitting outside some-where ??

Does your DH not get to do what he enjoys on holiday? Jesus. Either this is a reverse, or you are extremely controlling.

Is it your first ever holiday?

There’s nothing rational about dictating a curfew to another adult to be back in hotel room by 10pm. Good grief!

Why shouldn’t your husband take your child out of the hotel? Isn’t exploring new places one of the main reasons to go on holiday? Also, he’s a grown man, he doesn’t need a curfew.

A grown man wanted to take his child down to the lounge they weren’t going out to score drugs , that is not a normal level of ‘worry’ .

Do people actually live their lives like this? That they’re so anxious they won’t let their husbands take their children out in case they happen to leave a hotel while on holiday when the whole joy is about exploring and doing new things and having fun.

Not rational. Not normal. Controlling, overbearing, anxious

If this is genuine, you need professional help. (And honestly, so does your DH as he's dealing with a controlling partner)

It is not normal to try to prevent a grown adult from spending the evening in a hotel lounge with their child. It is also not normal to be that paranoid about the idea that they might leave the building.

It’s really not normal at all, where are you on holiday?

No, it’s not normal.

And what do you think would happen if he left the hotel? You talk as though it's a toddler who might escape from a play area, not your presumably fully adult husband?

You are not being rational. It’s not normal to be tucked up in bed at 8.30pm on holiday and demand that another adult not leave the room and go downstairs to the hotel bar, just because you think they might wander outside in a strange city.

No you're not and no it's not.

This is bonkers
Did you have an English style dinner watching Corrie at 7pm?

I can’t believe your family had even
eaten dinner by 8.30pm! Are you in the UK?

Unless there's a massive drip-feed, then this isn't rational. It's fine for you to want an early night, but it's not healthy to be so anxious about the world around you that you feel unable to cope with a grown man taking his and your child to a public space in a hotel. What are you worried might happen?

So you went to bed at 8.30 on holiday to post about it on Mumsnet instead of going out with your family??