I don't get it? I need help understanding 😔

[KEvLA]

Let me introduce myself.
I have a 9m old DS, 3 year old DD and a 5yr old DS. I have a lovely relationship with my inlaws.
My SIL had an 8yr old DS, a 5yr old DS- and a 2yr old. My kids have an absolutely beautiful relationship with their cousins - specially my 5yr DS - he sees them as best friends and can't wait to see them whenever we meet up and we all have a fab time. He doesn't stop talking about my husband's family, even living so far away lol
My PIL have a house abroad, it's been theirs since the 90s so all their second home.

My SIL declared a friend's holiday family this year rather than the usual family one ( booked early for August, which suited us brilliant as my family lived abroad in another country so we were going to look at all inclusive.
Wow the prices! My husband was gutted that there wasn't going to be a holiday abroad, to which I replied - next year we'll go when we have more money. I'm desperate to see my auntie and also equally as gutted too.

So my husband was determined to go for a holiday abroad and even though it was booked out for the summer, early September was available and my kids (their second home abroad) would still be excited as hell as they have a pool which is purely theirs to use for a whole week!
I randomly see that my FIL is in my SIL Facebook photos.. to which I was like, ok he's the sort of impulsive person who'd pop over for the weekend. I thought we could maybe ask him to the same with us too. THEN I find out both my PIL are there (this is their house and they have a little house at the bottom)
On a usual family holiday the kids are up and down to see them whenever they want and they come up for tea time and drinks with us all

So on finding this out I went ape shit - my children live 300m away from their grandparents so it was always lovely for them to spend a few days/week or so with their grandparents ( they make little effort at home) but when. They're there, wow they're fantastic!! I'm in awe.
Their other grandchildren live 15m down the road so see them whenever they want, totally normal as this is one of those child/parent close relationship).
They brush it off when we asked about it as my SIL had said - friend holiday.
They turn on my husband telling him he's unjustified by taking about it, and told him he was guilt tripping them about it. I'm livid for him when he basically said that this was "his life". Never seen it so evidently, wow.
So they're there having a mini family holiday to which my Husband was told by his BIL
They don't really come up but I saw that - they go up for drinks and food - as the do on a usual family holiday SMH.
They had a cancellation so they went early - my MIL said this.

Mother mode - *My children who adore and don't see their Grandparents a lot but, as I said - brilliant hands affectionate - they all snuggle up with eachother in the morning 💞.
They don't have any summer holiday abroad, even 2 days!! They're friends kid even does SMh. with them. They're all over there on their mini family holiday, justifying it all turned on my husband and my kids who live 300m away - perfect opportunity to spend time with their grandparents are not included, however last minute the flight was and however much they try to justify it.

I AM NOT EXAGGERATING WHEN I SAY I AM LIVID!

I've written this on here because it's eating me up and it's festering me inside I don't want to put all this on my husband when he's also feeling gutted. We all know that children talk and this will inevitably be brought up (same with another instance).

AIBU?

As we know us women go into lioness mode and our children are our world and I'll do anything to protect their feelings. My son is so intelligent , he'll be confused, upset or who knows?
I understand this is IF it's brought up by his cousin as I certainly won't!

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Perhaps they wanted a smaller gathering this year and were unsure how you would react.

You're not entitled to a holiday there, it's when they invite you, so try to let it go.

Your PIL don’t need your permission to visit their own holiday home.

They can go on holiday without you if they wish and they dont have to invite you.

YABU

Jeez it's to early for this, i read it half a sleep and thought it was just me being dumb but clearly not lol... I'm going back to bed

If you live 300 miles away how does your 5yo see his cousins so often that they are his best friends? But doesn't see enough of his GPs who live 15 miles away from cousins that this holiday warrants such an explosion?

YABVU, your PILs could spend the entire summer at their holiday home in the garden and have drinks and take photos with whatever family they are renting it out to and that would be none of your business. They could even have a couple of families that have been going for years that they know very well and have many photos with their children.

Your SIL went with her friends. You're going in September, you could take friends if you wanted.
Your PILs might have popped over to visit you too on a last minute flight, with this attitude doubt they will want to bother. You might also find the holiday home isn't very free for you to book in future either.

It's your PILs house. Not your DHs second home.

Throwing a tantrum may help?

Parklife!

I don't get it? I need help understanding 😔

Your title sums my interpretation of your post

I actually feel quite angry with myself for reading the whole OP even thigh I could tell from the opening line that I wasn't going to enjoy it.

I agree.

However, the solution seems simple to me. @KEvLA and Co couldn't afford the big abroad AI holiday they wanted. Therefore, they should have compromised and gone camping near the seaside.

FFS we are at our holiday home. DD and BF toddle back to London tomorrow; DS and DIL arrive Thursday. If DIL were ever to carry on as you appear to in your post, I'm afraid my views would be made very very clear.

Mumbo jumbo 😂

Sorry but I don't understand what has happened.

The children's grandparents have a holiday home. The kids love visiting because grandparents and a pool.

You are not having a holiday this year and then something about friends?

With all due respect you are wrong.

Your pil have done nothing to warrant this nonsense. They can have their daughter to the holiday home without you. They can have their daughter's friend to the holiday home without you. They can host whoever they please, without you.

You go there every year. That is LUCKY and NICE. You are not entitled to it.

Pull yourself together and behave.

I've no idea how there are some actual replies on here. I can't make any sense of the op at all.

Thank you. Yes, this.

I agree with pp that you’re over reacting. This isn’t a personal slight to your children so stop reacting f as though it is?

This is so difficult to read...
But I don't think the PIL went on a "mini holiday" without OP's family.

Usually, everyone goes abroad for a family holiday, I think at PILs' property. This year, SIL and BIL wanted to have a friends holiday, and organised their holiday at the property, so OP's family can't go.
PILs have their own accommodation on the property, they just happen to be there at the same time as SIL/BIL.

Not sure where the all-inclusive thing comes from or why OP's family didn't book their own holiday. I assume SIL/BIL told them too late that they were holidaying with friends so they couldn't book anything else.

OP: YABU. You can organise a holiday with your in-laws any other time of the year. They are allowed to want a holiday with their friends, and you PILs are allowed to use their house as they wish!
You are massively overthinking this, and if you don't calm down I doubt there will be many "family holidays" including you in the future.

what.

Did AI write this

Me either.

Massive over reaction OP.

Pull yourself together.

The y are allowed to holiday without you but the way they went about it was totally wrong.

However, maybe if this is the reactions you always give, they thought hiding it would make sense. They forgot about social medial though..

you’re going to have to write us a step by step summary if you want any sensible advice. This is incomprehensible.

So, when you tried to arrange to go to your Sil holiday home in September after believing the usual family meet up for August wasn't going ahead because your SiL had friends there then; you find PiL have gone anyway. So PiL, SiL, friends and DC are all there and you're not and you're upset? They are saying/you think they'll say it was just because PiL got a cheap last minute flight, but you think this is a poor excuse for all being together without you. MiL is making a big deal about how nice it is to be with GC, presumably on FB? Which you are hurt by, especially as she doesn't bother with them at home where you all live within convenient distance.
I'd say that unless there are issues between you, you should take this at face value. SiL did intend it to be friends, but PiL got an opportunity and joined. As they have their own house there, they're not impacting on SiL and friends in the main one, space etc. You are very fortunate to have holidays which only cost you the flight. Be careful you don't lose that by causing trouble over this.