Husband brought colleague home overnight

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My husband started a new job this year where he works night shift at a hospital. He normally comes home when I'm already deeply asleep. This morning he informed me that one of his colleagues was asleep on the sofa. Apparently she couldn't find her house keys and he offered she'd stay with us. I'm not super happy with that because 1) I have never met her, 2) we have small children and I don't feel comfortable having a complete stranger in my house, especially while I'm asleep. AIBU to think she should have tried staying with friends/family or called a locksmith? My husband said she has extremely bad mental health issues and he was concerned for her, which I do empathise with. She's still asleep on our sofa now...

A lone woman who is mentally unwell is very different to you bringing home a bloke. Come on.

You obviously don't trust your husband then.

This incident in isolation, absolutely fine.

Sounds like there might be a bit more to your husband's behaviour though longer term.

I think appropriate to say 'you did the right thing offering a colleague a bed for the night in an emergency.

However, I'm getting echoes of what happened with (the woman you mentioned) where you got over involved trying to be help her.

Please can you ensure you're keeping appropriate boundaries in place this time so this isn't becoming a regular thing?

She sounds like she needs a proper source of support. That isn't you'.

Sounds like a lot on here dont trust their husbands.

Exactly this.

And to add, if I was the colleague and a married colleague with kids offered me to stay at his I would decline. I would not feel comfortable not knowing you (his DP) and knowing there are kids at home and how this would potentially make you feel. She probably didn't feel this way seeing as she has mental health issues so if I was you, this would be my concern as he has now made it ok for him to help her. I think they both crossed a boundary here where he has allowed work to come into his personal life. That may sound harsh but my kids come first always if I don't know that person. Extremely uncomfortable imo.

Your husband sounds nice, I wouldn't have a problem with it myself

If it were me at the very most I'd have asked for a lift to my pals house. Or my relatives house. Why did she need a male colleague to help her out? Why doesn't she have friends/family? That's a bit unusual that she had nobody to help her in an emergency. And nobody who holds her spare key.

It was nice that your DH helped her. But I'm wondering why she let him?

I don't understand why people keep mentioning the children. Wholly irrelevant. The only effect this would have on them is to demonstrate that we always try to help people who need our help. What the hell do you imagine this woman is going to do? If your kids can't cope with someone staying overnight at your house that is a problem in my book. Not the way I would ever have raised mine. We often had people staying, whether scheduled or not. They have grown up to be generous and hospitable people.

To all the liars on here pretending they would be fine with random woman sleeping on their sofa that their hubby brought home...stop chatting shit!

She is not a "random woman ", but a known colleague in a spot of bother. He's not bequeathed her his estate ffs, he's offered her a spot on the couch for a few hours after a night shift. What is wrong with people? Why would you even care?

I sometimes think some people live in a very different world from me.

I find this thread profoundly depressing on the whole tbh.

Her health problems, as I have said upthread, make her more worthy of generosity and consideration, not less. As she is working, her health issues cannot be incapacitating. Exactly what do you think she is going to do whike she is sleeping off her presumably tiring shift on the couch? Compassion seems to have gone out of the window these days.

I think you should go to bed.

There is no sneaking, and I doubt there ant cool wives here either.

'My husband said she has extremely bad mental health issues'

Then he should have helped her get a hotel
for the night, not bring her to the family home for the night!

I'd have come downstairs and slung her out.

Oh come off it @dystopiaisonus, surely you know that some people have compassion and a sense of community (as well as not being predjudiced and paranoid towards people with health problems). You may not understand or share that but it still exists. I wouldnt gaf in this situation. I have in my time woken up with all sorts of people on the couch or on the living room floor (I have a gregarious and generous DH and also had two teenage DDs with lots of friends of both sexes).

You sound entirely bananas. I hope it’s down to a good night rather than a permanent affliction, but either way, rest is best.

it’s like Eastenders

Give over, no one does that