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To be so fucking angry. How many more women and children must die?

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Kianai · 21/08/2024 15:40

I'd almost become numb to it, with all the news so far this year.

Murder after murder of women and their children. Noone ever seeming to link the common denominator. NAMALT.

This latest one today, I feel like something is beginning to snap inside me. Three babies and a young woman dead, because of a fucking man. Again. And again.

news.sky.com/story/police-launch-murder-investigation-after-woman-and-three-children-die-in-house-fire-in-bradford-13200678

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Veebee89 · 18/09/2024 22:20

WotsYourExcuse · 04/09/2024 14:29

Also, given that a lot of women are trafficked as domestic slaves to rich households in places like Dubai, in many cases it's likely the wife that drives this decision.

I doubt the husband would argue if she insisted on doing all the household chores herself rather than outsourcing them.

Then it must be the woman’s fault because the only solutions here are the wife does it or a trafficked woman does it. Of course the lovely husband doesn’t mind which, he’s given the wife two options! If the wife doesn’t do all the housework herself that’s on her.

Fruitlips · 19/09/2025 16:24

BennyBee · 22/08/2024 18:18

The news stories are horrendous and any murder is terrible, whoever dies. We must remember that sometimes its our perception that crime rates have increased because of the sensational coverage of the media, not necessarily the reality ( in case anyone is panicking and anxious). If we look at the statistics, there are actually fewer domestic homicides this year than last. The numbers have been fairly steady but there was an uptick during lockdown. Around 100 women and 30 men are killed in a domestic homicide each year. Homicide in general is different: of the around 600 murdered people in the UK, around 70 per cent are men. Men are more often victims of fatal violence by strangers (usually other men) than women, who will die at the hands of someone they know more often. My mother was a battered wife and she was able to get away before he took her life (my stepdad) so I am always supportive of efforts to address this problem. But I also think it is important to get our facts straight.

Oh I read this to mean this step dad!

BennyBee · 19/09/2025 17:59

Thanks - you have an incredible memory! Yes, that is a different stepdad, who my mum thankfully escaped from over 35 years ago. My mum and current stepdad were blissfully happy together for 33 years, until she passed. He restored her (and my) faith in love!

I was a little taken aback to be asked about this on a post about a house sale and didn't recollect that I had mentioned the first step-dad on MN. How did you remember from so long ago?

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