Then the system has fortunately worked well for you, mostly, if the SW is on your side.
I work(ed - maternity leave and not actually UK originally, I’m on one of those workers’ visas but it has been several years now, although I grew up here in my primary years (as this seems to be a sensitive subject here, and tbf in my other EU country too very much so too : yes, taxes were paid🌼)) in a close field, and while I do agree with PPs comments mostly regarding their unfortunate experiences (and the same or beyond could be said in my two other different continents’ nationalities I’ve also worked in), I do agree at some point with PP who pointed out that it is very hard to advise with such little details - and, there is usually a way to post without identifying yourself (or these forums wouldn’t exist, except if we all wished to be ‘influencers’ of sorts ?) although that naturally will depend on your circumstances.
HV don’t always have ‘enough’ training, same for SW (personally I’d very happily further it if it didn’t cost a few tens of thousands as I’d have to do it self-funded, which while I would entry wise qualify for - what becomes of my LO if I add that debt - I just try my best… same for any field though really I’d say, although (the lack of) childhood funding in all of the countries I have worked has frustrated me in many different ways).
All this to say, if what you say regarding your husband is true, then I would reiterate the advice I usually give : get a full data request (which is a huge + in the UK), try either a free lawyer consult or relevant charity advise consult, and then just keep that info in your personal files (or go further with it, that is anyone’s choice, but many people can’t afford to actually do so nor wish to end up in the news sadly), that ‘knowledge is power’ saying basically.
Overall though, as there seems to be so many of these threads recently ( I usually just read while sleep deprived), part of the system is the only way you can actually reach those children who would otherwise be completely unknown (as I’m still in the same field, I’m obviously biased and think it is worth it - and second the advice above for data access requests for others who have had unfortunate experiences).
ETA : seem to have been quite a few posts since I typed !