SS visited today

[sotiredandconfused]

I recently had a HV come round. She appeared a little rigid and looked like she was attending a wedding but she seemed chatty and reflected back lots of positive things she was seeing. Today I had a SW unexpectantly visit and after she read out everything that the HV had raised, to say I was shocked is an understatement. Both my DH were there and the HV literally fabricated and misrepresented things she saw. The SW was lovely and stated she had no concerns and let me know I could make a complaint (I have).

So WTF! I'm still in shock. The HV asked me at the time whether I wanted another visit and I said no, and then SS turn up!

That's really depressing. Definitely make a complaint.

Can the SW back up your complaint?

I recommend writing a letter to the SW thanking them for their time and confirming that they do not believe there is any cause for concern and that, instead, they recommended raising a complaint about the HV, something that you are now considering.

Social Services runs on paper. Document everything and always send them a letter confirming what they've told you in person or over the phone. SW are massively overworked and don't always document things properly themselves.

imagine you had a lego set for London bridge, this hv built the taj Mahal and the solar system.

🤣

Well my imagination is unbound now.

That is awful. It's a sign of a decent partner. I am angry on your behalf.

My daughters aninal behaviour was regarded as abnormal, including how she spoke (she’ll imitate animals sound). As the SW observed my daughter more she saw a decline in this otherwise innocent behaviour.behavioir that doesn't interfere with her everyday activities, sleep etc. SW stated she didn't have concerns about this behaviour. The HV should have known this, yet regarded it as abnormal (incorrect and used this as evidence?

Well noone really knows if you Abu then?

Evidence for what?
What is she going to do with it?

It’s impossible to know if she was being unreasonable based on what you’ve said.

The SW was pretty good tbh and although she couldnt pull up the HV actions as rubbish (not very professional) she commented that what had been written down was not evidenced in person.onviouslt shell have to do the lateral checks but she stated shell do this asap and then I can have a copy. She reiterated during the visit that she had no concerns and reminded me that I could make a complaint (which I already have).

How old is you DD? I mean if she's 4 and pretending to be an animal that is very different to if she is 15 (I dont really think we are talking about a 15 yr old, but I guess I've seen crazier things on here)

She insinuated bad things.
That's unreasonable....

Just turned 4.

Why are you still allowing health visitor into your home for home visits when your child is about to turn 4? Did you ask for extra support or something?
They don’t need to come by to weigh them or anything by that age. And if you have any concerns or need an appointment or help with something, you can call them up. There is no reason for a 4 year old old to need a home visit unless you’ve been asking for them?

My three year old licks me multiple times a day whilst pretending to be a cat. The more I protest, the more he does it. I don’t think your HV would be impressed with that 😂

I had no idea HVs visited four year olds. How did that come about?

What does "she looked like she was going to a wedding" mean?

Also, can you explain the bit where you said the HV "looked like she was attending a wedding".

I know you're all for metaphor, but I'm neurodivergent and really struggling to understand your post when you don't just say what actually happened. That's not a dig, I'm just asking you to consider a range of readers for your post.

As PP suggested, back up with a letter to SS. Take photos of the environment etc. to provide evidence of her exaggerations, where possible. Such as, a photo of the dog in the cage or whatever it was. Jot down everything you remember and keep it. Contemporary notes can be useful. Either if anything else official comes of the situation or just for your own future reference.
Memory is a funny thing. You think, "I'll never forget that", but you can easily forget or slightly misremember details.

I'm not saying you're going to court, before anybody makes that accusation, but why do you think police officers write stuff down in little notebooks. Officials just like that. It's more real, iyswim, more accurate.

Got that advice off a barrister who writes all sorts of crap in his little book and photographs weird stuff, like carpark signs, if he can even imagine scenarios of future trouble. We take the piss out of him but it's got him out of the shit on a few occasions.

Oh god, is your daughter in her ‘cat’ phase?! If so you have my every sympathy. Been through this twice with two DDs. Elder one 16 now and predicted 9s in English in her GCSEs and younger now eight and at greater depth for all her Y3 subjects. I will just say that both of them are now diagnosed with autism and ADHD. We do not and have never owned cats or any other pets.

I've reported this thread - funnily enough this exact phrase was used in a similar thread now being looked into by MN. May be a co-incidence...

This is baffling. What's the correlation between predicted English GCSE grades and pretending to be a cat?

The thread is bonkers.

No I don't think so either!

I assumed she meant the woman was dressed really nice. But who knows

The SW presented you with a list of concerns ('insinuations' no less- very strange) as opposed to making their own observation? And then shared her opinion about the Hv with you?
All of this is very odd! Why did the HV even visit in the first place?