SS visited today

[sotiredandconfused]

I recently had a HV come round. She appeared a little rigid and looked like she was attending a wedding but she seemed chatty and reflected back lots of positive things she was seeing. Today I had a SW unexpectantly visit and after she read out everything that the HV had raised, to say I was shocked is an understatement. Both my DH were there and the HV literally fabricated and misrepresented things she saw. The SW was lovely and stated she had no concerns and let me know I could make a complaint (I have).

So WTF! I'm still in shock. The HV asked me at the time whether I wanted another visit and I said no, and then SS turn up!

Its part of the checks they do in this area - pre school visits.

Are you outside the UK? You say she just turned 4 wouldnt she be going into Reception not pre-school

She looked lovely but ‘posh’ and I remember thinking at the time how this could come across given her job. She works with vulnerable people and obviously isn't self aware in how she could come across? I wouldn't say she was ‘warm’.

It’s a shame the HV isn’t coming back.
You and your husband and daughter could all bark and meow and quack at her and give her the full animal treatment.

Fyi

hduhb.nhs.wales/healthcare/services-and-teams/health-visiting/

It’s ok to be posh though? I mean you can’t criticise someone for their class.

I'm further confused. So you won't tell us what happened for confidentiality, but you've shared the Health Board the HV works for and given a description of her dress and demanour?

No, it really isn’t. Animal noises can be part of an autistic child’s vocal stimming.

Omg yes!

When the HV was here I spoke about possible autism which I've already referred her for. So my daughters cat like behaviour was seen and reported as abnormal with an insinuation that we encourage it!

@YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer

Pre school as in before entering school.

hduhb.nhs.wales/healthcare/services-and-teams/health-visiting/

Recently relocated to wales

I'm glad you posted it. Let England knows vile people work in that field and be on their guard.

@PatchTheGiantStuffedDog well done you for probably shitting down the other thread. Yes I commented on that thread too. Pure coincudence. I'm wondering whether you are also prone to unnecessary escalation of things?

Well, I vote you ABU for being so shady here about what actually happened.

HTH.

She read out the concerns.

@DreamTheMoors

🤣

@Staunchlystarling

The issue is she works in a role where she works with vulnerable people. People need to be able trust her, of course she can dress smart, but approachability etc matters. She literally looked like she was going to a wedding.

Professionals will never support a complaint against each other if safeguarding is concerned as they want to protect (rightly) anyone in future making a referral - they’d rather have hundreds of referrals that lead nowhere than to put someone off making the one that matters so nothing ever comes of these kind of situations it’s all just case closed we had to follow procedure kind of attitude, which I feel is probably the only way and as long as social workers are well trained and experienced should always work out fine as they know what’s a genuine concern and what isn’t.
You can’t have people scared to report concerns that’s the bottom line so unfortunately this kind of mistake will happen when the net is cast wide.

@takeyourluckwhereyoufindit

If you can find her from this then ill eat my hat!

I was pregnant with my second child. A HV come round to do their standard pregnancy visit, she said she could see a mark on my then 13 month old DD's face, it was a spot. She actually got her fucking phone out and used the torch on her face to look at it clearly, I then pointed out it was a spot and she agreed. A few minutes later she said she thought she could see a mark elsewhere on her face. Unbelievable. At this point I was fuming and made it clear there was nothing to see. She ended the visit positively, said she could see I was a good mum and she had no concerns. As soon as she left I rang my mum crying my eyes out.
Ever since I've been so anxious about any professional, I have absolutely nothing to hide but it's no wonder some people withdraw from these services. She was actively looking for bruises in front of me with no reasoning what so ever.

You do realise that there are four countries within the UK? Her thread makes perfect sense in Scotland. Home visits until she 5 I believe and plenty of kids go to preschool/nursery until their 5 depending on their birth date. Reception is an English thing as far as I'm aware.

Record every word of any future visits and even set up cameras for evidence.

My five year old frequently pretends to be a cat.

God, ignore my typos please!

@takeyourluckwhereyoufindit

And just checked this isn't the right area in wales. She works elsewhere.