SS visited today

[sotiredandconfused]

I recently had a HV come round. She appeared a little rigid and looked like she was attending a wedding but she seemed chatty and reflected back lots of positive things she was seeing. Today I had a SW unexpectantly visit and after she read out everything that the HV had raised, to say I was shocked is an understatement. Both my DH were there and the HV literally fabricated and misrepresented things she saw. The SW was lovely and stated she had no concerns and let me know I could make a complaint (I have).

So WTF! I'm still in shock. The HV asked me at the time whether I wanted another visit and I said no, and then SS turn up!

Can't you just say Social services. When I first saw it I thought it was the bloody gestapo. I hate abbreviations I spend more time working them out than reading the post. I even have to Google some.

If you have nothing to hide what's the problem if you have something to hide then I get your issue and why you are pissed off about someone doing their job but if you have nothing to hide let them do their job hv obv had concerns or would not have flagged it with ss you clearly have something to hide or you would not be running to mn

I'm not sure this logic makes sense. You wouldn't be upset and annoyed in these circumstances?

Not me, but a friend had a HV who told her to treat her big, very hungry 2 month old baby ‘like an alcoholic’ and restrict his feeds!

Might add that another friend was a midwife and HV for 10 years before she had her first- and told me that during her first month with him, she’d done every single thing she’d spent the last X years telling new mums not to do!

@Hereforaglance that's not how it works.

Sometimes they are like the Gestapo. SS was very apt in our case.

@Hereforaglance

Your response (as with a few others) is exactly why unnecessary and inappropriate referrals are problematic.

I have cooperated fully with the SW. Answered all her questions despite the ludicrous opinions of the HV. The SW looked around our home and I have consented for her to do the lateral checks.

I came to mumsnet to vent. What has helped me cope with this, is the fact that these type of referrals are not uncommon and therefore I'm not left with my own thoughts where I can start gaslighting myself.

This is almost funny. It's what birth parents always say when their child is removed, that it's about quotas.

No that's absolutely not the case. They are overworked and the threshold high. Guess whst, they even go out sometimes and say everything is fine and miss the abuse because of disguised compliance. Everyone then thinks the referrer was the one that made the mistake...

I agree. Nothing to hide doesn’t mean you want ss snooping around. It’s extremely stressful and invasive

She would have had to have your consent to refer you unless it was CP?

Children aren’t removed simply because Mary down the road makes an allegation. An investigation takes place and they need evidence to support it - removing a child is extremely difficult and lots of hoops need to be jumped through first. Don’t be blindsided by people screeching ‘they took my kids for no reason!’ No, no they didn’t.

This says more about the HV than your family.

I'd imagine
No hair out of place, looks like she's fresh out of the salon. Make up perfect. Dressed to the 9's. Heels or open toe. All colourful and rich.
All judgey! Lives in an ideal world!

It doesn’t surprise me, I had to have the HV for both of ours until their adoption orders were through. One told our sons social worker we had been giving him dangerous eletronic devices that could lead to him being seriously injured. These dangerous devices were his hearing aids, heari g aids she believed he didn’t need because he could hear her clapping about 2mm away from his ears.

You can’t cure stupid.

This is incorrect. Consent is best practise only. Section 47 had not been instigated - this was investigation only. The SW explained this to me.

@Ace56 so you're saying there are no cases of children wrongfully removed?

Yeah ok, from first reading your post, I’d agree that it was pointless without examples as few others also mentioned..
however after reading some of your examples they are shocking and I’m totally with you! That’s appalling that she’s done this, I’m not surprised your in shock and angry
id definitely be complaining she sounds absolutely nuts!

@Ace56 You would be surprised what they can achieve based on their word alone. An SW report is considered evidence within a court setting and would be relied upon by a Judge. It's quite scary really because they could write anything which I have personal experienced.

Yes yes, they do.
You know nothing and for your sake, I hope you remain that way.....

@InstantDestiny

On closer inspection (and trying to think back), its at the section 17 stage (I think). Consent should have been sought, or at the very least the process discussed prior SS arriving at my door!

doom!!!
especially if your kid has a loving dad. That is just too much. Na. Must be something wrong with that cat kid 🤣🤣🤣

I personally think that to see too much bad stuffs actually makes one close eyes/hears or oppositely sees everything as…

It must just be hard to keep faith and see things as they are.

but then again. Yeah. No mistakes please 😵‍💫 💔💔

Op,

I hope you feel better today. What an absurde nightmare!!

🌺

someone who is like my mum fostered a kid who was removed. As the foster mum she was told there was zero evidence so she should help ss by letting mum and dad visit on Sundays. This was a newborn. I obviously met the baby at the time!