To think you should compliment someone’s home?

[freeabdhappy]

If they are your friend and it’s their first time visiting?

I always tell my friends how nice I think their homes are when I visit - even if it’s not to my taste in the slightest.

I think I'd be creeped out. I did have one friend comment on the mess. Ah...if she'd seen it a few days before 😂.

I don't mind if people comment on a picture or something but I'd prefer genuine compliments rather than an attempt to tell me I have a lovely home.

They might not like it

Our house is a mess, needs redecorating, new carpets, new kitchen and bathroom none of which we can afford to sort out. If someone complemented it I'd think they were lying.

If you’re visiting a friend’s house for the first time isn’t it instinctive to say something nice? It is for me, whether it’s a gorgeous home or just an ordinary one I’ll make a positive comment. It doesn’t mean you have to be over the top with gushing compliments. This is specifically for first time visits.

This is the exception though. I compliment on a first visit but I have a friend whose house is very messy and there’s literally nothing to compliment. On my first visit I didn’t mention anything and I think that was a compliment in itself lol.

It’s not instinctive for (many) neurodivergent people.

Well no, I understand that but NT people I think it probably is, if it’s a friend and a first visit to their home it’s natural to say something nice.

I have a friend who lives in a tiny two up two down and it’s so gorgeous I gush about it every time I go there. I get just as excited to see her beautiful home as I do about seeing her 😁