to exclude my friend from a holiday because she's got a boy?

[brownmouse]

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I have a small group of 4 friends, we all have 1 child of the same age (5)

One of us has a boy

I am arranging a summer break for us all but the three of us with girls really don't want the other person coming along. The girls play nicely together while we sit around talking. The boy is loud and whacks the girls and is constantly full of energy, and is constantly knocking into us, interupting our conversation.

We'd like a summer BREAK where we sit around while the girls play. If we invite the mum-of-boy it won't be a break, it will be noisy and stressful.

Should we arrange it and exclude her, or just invite her and accept that it will just be a child-focussed holiday?

I think you are wrong to leave your friend out. I also hate it when people label behavior by gender. To think that all the girls will sit and play together nicely like little angels and the boy will be rampaging about is ridiculous.
shame on you.

THIS THREAD IS 2 YEARS OLD.......

not this thread again!

Im sure this thread has been resurrected twice now!

YABU

Havnt read any of this thread at all.... but my gut reaction is YABU... poor women excluded cos her child is boy.... ah thats mean.... if she is your friend then let her come....

lol

Lol Lol

I am indestructible

Braiiiiiiiiiiiins! Its a zombie apocalypse! Now where's the fit guy on a horse? :D

Something similar happened to my younger sister. She had 3 friends with two girls each while my ds has 2 boys. They met at NCT and all was well for a few years.

My Dsis is rather lovely in looks and personality, she is also very witty. I think two of the friends who were not as blessed were envious of her. They started to direct little pin pricks towards her, emphasising her lack of a daughter. I think it was the only way they could "trump" her. Mainly things that she could not confront them with such as

"We are not going to invite you over as we are having a girlie day".

And " We feel so sorry for you not having a girl, we will have best friends for life. Why don't you try again maybe you will have better luck next time."

The third friend was never nasty to my DS but did not stand up for her either.

My DS finally got the message that she should drop them, but it was painful for her. Her boys were well behaved and the eldest in particular would have enjoyed girlie days.

It is a terrible thing to feel left out by people you consider to be your friends.

Bloody hell, do we need a basilisk fang to destroy this thread? :o

I remember this from last time! I really need to get off this site.

I know this is from April but its not sxluding him for being a boy, its exluding him for being a pain in the arse from the sounds of it.

Oh April 2008. right well then.

(And the OP was BU )

Why the fuck do people bump ancient threads? Ought to be a hanging offence.

I don't think it's unreasonable.Why should you pay good money for a break that will be ruined
But it's a better idea to have no kidsthen you can invite the 4th mum tooo

I'd love an update. Now all the girls are 7 and the 'nasty stuff' will be starting especially if there's 3 of them!

I haven't time to read all 500 posts but I wanted to say that as the mother of a boy - this thread makes me feel so sad. Boys are naturally more inclined to rambunctious action play - its easy to judge when your girls are nicely sitting around doing crafts or whatever. It not a great mark of friendship to exclude someone rather than compromising and adapting so everyone can enjoy themselves. Your excluding her for something she can't possibly resolve (and shouldn't really be made to feel like she needs to [hmmm]).

How would you feel in her position?

Oh I should have read up - I see someones bumped an old thread.

Indignation withdrawn.

YAB SO VERY U

Poor woman 'friend'? apparently not. She is probably bloody knackered herself.

Some friends you are.

Poor little boy.