to exclude my friend from a holiday because she's got a boy?

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I have a small group of 4 friends, we all have 1 child of the same age (5)

One of us has a boy

I am arranging a summer break for us all but the three of us with girls really don't want the other person coming along. The girls play nicely together while we sit around talking. The boy is loud and whacks the girls and is constantly full of energy, and is constantly knocking into us, interupting our conversation.

We'd like a summer BREAK where we sit around while the girls play. If we invite the mum-of-boy it won't be a break, it will be noisy and stressful.

Should we arrange it and exclude her, or just invite her and accept that it will just be a child-focussed holiday?

somewhere a mum of a very "energetic boy" is sitting saying to herself "thank fuck i don't have to go on that stupid holiday with that bitch who thinks my son is the devil incarnate"

Are you being unreasonable? No you are being a fanny.

hi, for anyone thinking of excluding someone from an activity involving a set group of friends for whatever reason, please be really mindful of their feelings. Maybe being such a fixed group isn't always a great idea in any case, maybe you and the other mum could do something together and your dc and their dc could find a new way of relating, or maybe not ll activities have to involve all your dcs. But do please be careful of the emotional impact on your friend if you exclude her..I've recent experience, though in a very different context and it is really awful to be excluded....see:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/950769-AIBU-to-feel-really-u pset-about-this-and-not-know

This is 2 years old?

Man, it's a zombie thread. It had already died once.

yabvvvvvvvvvu, and mean

as a mother of a small energetic boy I find this so sad

Your poor friend, being left out because her child is the wrong sex

YABVVVVVU, I am shocked at your attitude tbh how mean and cruel. So what makes you feel that all the girls will play nicely and be good with each other all of the time, like others have said they will probably end up arguing and bickering about something or another, girls are not perfect. I do hope that this is not a good friend of yours, some friend you are. This is playground behaviour it really is, grow up op!

Go on separate holidays, or go on holiday without the kids much better idea, iam sure that there are dp/dh,friends,relatives to help with the children.

But to go on holiday with the children and leave out the friend with the boy

This thread is TWO YEARS OLD!!!!

OMG Squeaver why the hell did someone bring this thread up what a waste of time.

i hate that!! digging up the old threads....i read the whole fecking thing before i realised!!!!!!

Are you for real?

If you had had a lively son instead of a quiet daughter you would have SUCH a different view on what you have just posted here. Children are children, all are different, all have pluses and minuses.

Do you honestly not possess the social skills to be tolerant of a 5yr old child......?

YABU.

Grrrrr...old thread.....double grrrrr......

Edinegg why have you resurrsected such an old thread?

Yanbu. Have had first hand experience of this, and in the end, one group of friends and ourselves decided not to holiday with other family because the kids (boys in this case) were so badly behaved and attention seeking.
My dh and i was wound up and pretty miserable the last time we went away with them, and life really is to short, and holiday time too precious to be puttiing up with unnaceptable behaviour.

IT is really rubbish to be in this situation, but tbh, I've got mates who I wouldn't go on hols with because of their kids. It is obvious from your post that it is not the fact her kid is a boy ,but the fact her kid is really bloody annoying, that you object to and quite rightly! Maybe if you tell it to her straight she might try and get him to behave. I've got boys and girls and my boys are boisterous, rude, or out of control, (well not that much!) but some of their friends, particularly when aged around 3-5, were just complete pains in the arse. They'd come round, knock everything over, break everything, spill everything, fight and hit, and I just thought FUCK THIS, and so now I don't bother inviting them anymore. Even though I'm mates with the mums, we all recognise 'our kids don't really get on' - which is my code for 'your kids are really bloody awful' and we confine our social life to giong out together in the evenings - kid free stuff. I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. much nicer for you and your DD if you can all have a nice hol not interupted by a badly behaved kid every 5 minutes.

rocknstroll, you're post is refreshingly honest, and echoes my thoughts on this subject!

Dont you know someone else with a boy who could come along and play boyish games with that poor little chap?

Flipping heck the thread is 2 years old-I feel stupid

I actually have been left out of things because I have an energetic boy and others have quiet, easy going girls.

It's hurtful, there is no other word for it.

YABsoU I am actually upset answering this.

YABU, It would be a child focussed holiday with 3 5 year old girls anyway,you'll find you won't be able to just sit around talking while they play nicely together. So invite youe frien or don't go.

Just realised this is an old thread,

I've just wasted half an hour of my life reading this thread and getting steamed up! Who bumped it and why??