Should a sahm do dh ironing?

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I have 2 small children and one due in October and I hate ironing.
I haven't ironed dh shirts in about a year since I told him I was not going to do it.
The ironing pile has grown over the past year and dh is complaining he has no clothes and he keeps asking for them to be ironed and nothings been ironed in a year.
It's all his T-shirts I don't iron my clothes and I don't iron the children's unless it's a particular item that needs it.
I am a sahm at the moment but I really don't like ironing and nor does he am I right to refuse as he wears it, he irons it or is this just part of my role as a sahm?

I always did when I was a sahm.

It’s a difficult one, as you don’t iron anything, so why iron his.

But, the flip side is that if you’re a SAHM I do think ironing falls to you. Does he work in a job that requires him to look smart? If the ironing is for his work clothes and his work is the only income I think that yes, you should probably iron it.

I ironed as a SAHM, but when I went back to work I made it clear that DH could either iron his own or pay for it to be outsourced. We now have someone to iron.

I don't iron unless it's school uniform.

You are not your husband's maid. He needs to take responsibility for his own shit.

Does he do any other household stuff?

I fucking hate ironing and didn't do it for anyone when I was a SAHM.

Honestly, I was a SAHM for 4 years and I always did pretty much everything. DH was out the house at 7 am and back about 7pm and frankly my life was a breeze in comparison (2 young children and one with special needs) so i did whatever I could to make the household run smoothly.

We are a partnership and DH is as feminist as it comes, but it seemed only fair and reasonable to me.

It depends…how much time do you have free, does he do nice things for you?
If the deal is that he works hard so that you can do childcare and chores, and you then have equal amounts of free time, then yes, it would be fair for you to do the ironing if you have time.
But I see you are pregnant, which changes things, in that it is so physically demanding being pregnant and looking after small children. I’d put the ironing on hold till you’ve had the baby and recovered. Think about it again next year!

This actually made me laugh.

How do you keep your eyes on the screen while holding a lump of burning hot metal?! And you need to look to know where to direct the iron, surely?

TV is a bit pointless if you’re only listening to it. So much is about the visuals.

Podcasts and audio books are a much safer idea.

Except she says she doesn't iron.

Yes. I did ironing being a SAHM. Counted in my around hours each week of childcare and housework.
But we have very little stuff to iron and prefer not to buy clothes needing special care. Not just worth it.

My husband shirts for work are done by a local shop now. £2 pund each.
We both work and noone fancy doing it.

Two small kids and another on the way? Heck no. If you're ironing something then maybe do one as a concession, but otherwise if he wants his t-shirts ironed he's more than capable of doing them himself - or learning if he doesn't know how to.

I do DH's ironing (work shirts), but he walks my dog. And my kids are a bit older now anyway.

I can't be arsed with ironing unless it's for an interview, wedding or funeral.

All tops hang on hangers to dry, smooth them out when damp, give other items a good few flicks to straighten them out.

I'm a sahm and my DH does not expect me to iron his clothes as I don't do any ironing.

Two small kids at home and pregnant is not a luxury! He has the luxury of leaving the house.

The M in SAHM isn't 'maid'.

Irons are for Hama beads!

Who does ironing nowadays?!?! What a waste of life!

Tell your DH to iron his own shirts. He can do it whilst watching TV in the evening.

And she's providing childcare so he can work.

Worked fine for me. Never hurted myself.

How does the bedding come back unwrinkled?

DH does the ironing in our house, but he is the SAHP.

I hate ironing, I can do it I just don't like it. DH loves ironing and is quite anal about it.

He hates folding and putting away clothes (because he can't tell what belongs to who).

We have an agreement I do that bit, he does ironing. He only irons the uniforms normally, he will iron the odd bit of other clothing if I ask him.

I did when I worked three days but not when I went up to four. I made it clear that his ironing was what he needed to do in return for me earning more.

But - I love ironing and it’s my TV time. If you genuinely have no time as you have both preschoolers at home most of the time then he can do it himself.

Perhaps you care less about the TV experience than I do.

Luxury! Shush yourself.

Fuck no!

He wants it ironed, he can iron it.

It’s folded!

If someone else was working so that I was able to stay at home, I would do their ironing if necessary, yes. I’d consider it part of the general domestic stuff that I’d chosen to take on by not doing a paid job.

they fold it perfectly in such a way that I could never do it like that.

proper ironing services know how to fold sheets etc properly so it goes there dirty, they wash it and iron it and it comes back all pristine with the wrapping on it etc