Would this annoy you- husband - plane seats

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We went away recently, 3 hour flight.

It turned out our seats were not together.

My husband was on his own at the back and I had two seats, one for me and my 1 year old son on my lap and one for my 3 year old.

When we sat down, I said- don't worry I'll be fine. Let's see how it goes, maybe we can swap. Come and see us when we are up there.

He did not move from his seat once. I saw him go to the toilet. But not ONCE did he come up to our row, ask how we are OR take one of the children.

I was furious.

AIBU ?

Post like this always strike me as pretty pointless. 'Did you not...?' Of course they didn't - if they had Op wouldn't have anything to post about would they?

We would have taken one child each. So him and baby, you and toddler. Then reverse for the return journey. Why didn’t you do that? It seems strange not to have done

Yes I'd have been furious and if it was part of a pattern of selfish and inconsiderate behaviour then I'd be reconsidering my whole relationship.

He could have taken turns to take them for a "walk" on the plane. Just to distract them / give you 10 minutes.

Although given the lady in the aisle seat seemed unable to move I'm not sure how that works if you'd needed the loo or to change a nappy? What would you have all done? If he had come over to swap seats, would the lady have been able to move to facilitate this?

OP and her DH knows their children better than us.

Maybe they only had one hand luggage with the children’s things in it.

Maybe they suspected they would be more settled with their mum and both siblings together, and would therefor disturb other passengers less.

Post like this always strike me as pretty pointless. 'Did you not...?' Of course they didn't - if they had Op wouldn't have anything to post about would they?

The OP has actually contradicted herself.....

she originally gave the impression that the seats were just allocated and they didn't know...... but then in one of her updates (drip feed!) she said she reserved the seats but they were not available together because it was a last minute holiday.

You can’t swap seats. There is a legal requirement to stay put so that in the event of a crash, they can match body parts to identities. The most he could have done is take the baby on his lap. I don’t know why you didn’t send 1yr old back with him in the first place so you’d each have a kid with you instead if volunteering to take both kids.

Op selected the seats. That was the point she should have said "we'll swap half way".
And it was 3 hours. Not a long time.

If it had been me, if the children were happy then I'd have found it better to stay with them and not mess around and potentially upset them then. I assume they were happy or Op would have said that they were disturbing people.
And on the same point, if they'd been with dh, and he'd said he was okay, I wouldn't have gone over unless they were getting restless. And he wouldn't have expected it either.

And the woman next to you should mind her own business. Unless you were moaning to her, she wasn't to know that you hadn't decided that was better for the DC. If you were moaning, why didn't you go and talk to your dh instead
She's obviously an expert on marriages having had two divorces.

Are parents really so petty that absolutely everything must be split 50/50 all the time no matter what.

Christ

I was just thinking that 😂

Surely the person sitting on their own should have taken the 1yo in their lap, and the other person sits with the 3yo?

I would have done one child each or swapped half way. Tbh if dh and I were in that situation and he had kids I would have waited until he initiated a swap and vice versa

The OP has said the children are clingy without her in unfamiliar situations.

I don’t understand why he didn’t sit in your seat with the 3 year old and you had his seat with the one year old. Or why he didn’t have the one year old? Why did you choose to take both children?

You might have understood if you had bothered to read OP’s updates before making the same comment as 50 people before you.

What a selfish prick. I cant imagine being with anyone like that - did you ask him when he was such a selfish arsehole Or did you let it go?

So you’re back home presumably after a good holiday and you’re still moaning about the flight out 🙄
Much ado about nothing!

I'd be fuming.

Oh, I am so sorry my post struck you as pointless
As pointless as poiting out that you find some things pointless, whereas other have agreed

Yes I'd be furious! If you still have a return journey ask him to either pay for seats together or decide which child he wants to look after. Better still, you leave him with the kids and you enjoy three hours sat on your own.

Shows who he is...
I never had kids because I simply couldn't trust any man to be decent enough (starting with father).
No complaints, but a bit grim.

Have you talked to him about this? If so, what has been said?

What did he say when you weren’t happy with him at the end of the flight?
Personally I don’t even understand why you weren’t each sitting with a child instead of you having to look after both.

Your loss, if this was your only reason.

Definitely not a loss!
😁

Surely the answer was for one parent to sit with the 3 year old, and one to take the 1 year old on their lap on the other seat? Why would you automatically take both?