To find this H comment annoying

[Ginge88]

If I forget something or use the wrong plug or something, DH says loudly

"And the 356th way Ginge has fucked up today is...."

Or whatever number is in his head. Frustrating thing is I actually don't mess up things v much and it's him that needs reminders of everything

But yes if he notices says the milk is left out or something il hear him say "and Ginge succeeds in fucking up for the 455th time this week" and chuckling to himself

I've told him to stop. He tells me it's a joke. He does now do it less but he clearly thinks I'm being totally over sensitive

Am I?

Speak to the GP surgery and beg for a home call out appointment.. Get it on record he isn't mentally well.

Is he likely to jump off the floor and say you were lying?

Yes, I think having some kind of record could help with the custody negotiation. Not good for the kids to be seeing this.

This, use his ridiculous play acting against him. I'd have full sympathy for anyone who is genuinely suicidal, but as a PP said, people with actual suicidal ideation don't tend to announce it and certainly not as a threat.

Ive told him to speak to a doctor. He's taken himself to bed with a diet coke, sweets and his laptop while i get the kids in bed. He said "I just need to have some time to myself". Im documenting it all.

Can you record him doing it next time OP? It may not be useable in court or anything, but just having proof of his play acting could come in handy.

Telling him to see a doctor hasn’t helped you get rid of him. He sees this as you caring and staying. You should have called for help so it was documented by health workers and logged . You have to be proactive and get evidence

And he knows it works on you. You just caved so he will use it again

Logging with 101 that you are afraid for your life and that of your children after years of abuse, coercive control, emotional abuse of the children.
Use this thread as a diary, is your best chance.
Ask to make a statement that you are terrified of him, what he is capable of to you and your children.

You are not responsible for other people’s decisions. Speak to the GP yourself and say how you are struggling to support as they might refer you to support groups where you can hang out with people who just get it.

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@Ginge88 - I know its hard to leave. I planned to leave and it took me three years. I had to move out with the kids as he would not leave the family home. Is this something thats possible for you ? Life is amazing without exH - he will drag you down and he will never change.....

If he needs time to himself why doesn't he just fuck off. He'd have all the time to himself. Self absorbed wanker 🙄

Because that is what OP wants. He wants OP to suffer and he knows that refusing to leave and using the children as pawns is greatly upsetting OP, and that makes him very happy. He is a sociopathic cunt.

Thinking of you, Ginge, hope you’re doing ok.

Hope you’re ok@Ginge88Still rooting for you to break free. x

Thinking of you, OP