To find this H comment annoying

[Ginge88]

If I forget something or use the wrong plug or something, DH says loudly

"And the 356th way Ginge has fucked up today is...."

Or whatever number is in his head. Frustrating thing is I actually don't mess up things v much and it's him that needs reminders of everything

But yes if he notices says the milk is left out or something il hear him say "and Ginge succeeds in fucking up for the 455th time this week" and chuckling to himself

I've told him to stop. He tells me it's a joke. He does now do it less but he clearly thinks I'm being totally over sensitive

Am I?

My husband didn't like me wearing make up. He was insecure too. And pandered to his mother too.

Strong men don't behave like that.

"Aren't jokes meant to be funny?"

or

"Oh give it a rest you boring fucker, you say the same thing ten times a day".

@Ginge88

That's awful that he criticised your make up. He sounds soul destroying. The person who is supposed to like you most doesn't seem to like you or respect you at all.

That's just straight up bullying OP, why are you with this horrible man?

Next time tell him you wil get being a wife right with your next husband...
And smile.

If you have someone constantly pointing out your faults, you will make more. My ex used to go on at me whenever I was driving (and many other times as well) and the more he commented the more mistakes I made, including some very near misses. Since throwing his abusive ass out, I've had many people compliment my driving.

Also, we all make mistakes, even the very perfect people who frequent these boards.

My Dh tried this (but nothing like the OP's H). I quickly pointed out that the only way to not make a mistake was to not do anything in the first place. So to stop my terrible behaviour I would no longer do any cooking, shopping or cleaning. I should also stop anything in the bedroom as well, just in case I made a mistake there too.

Weirdly, he didn't do this anymore. He does come from a family that appears to highlight and laugh at mistakes, rather than acknowledge anything good.

wow. I love the 99% YANBU. So we agree on this one then ladies!

God the response to you being dressed up is horrid.
I would try I'm aware you think it's funny, but I don't I find it mean and hurtful as though you really dislike and think I'm a shit human being. Please stop doing it. If he carries on I'd look at filing for divorce I could not live with this.

You really ought to practice telling him to fuck off. This is INCREDIBLY disrespectful. It should make you feel small, it should make you angry.

And you are still with him, why ?

Does he ever make you feel good about yourself? Treasured, valued, respected?
Does he boost you up?

I wouldnt tolerate those mean bullying comnents. Its repetitive, targeted and unkind, and hes the only one that finds it funny. Thats what bullying is.
Youve already told him to stop, so he knows that you hate it, and he doesn't care.
Time to read the riot act

C1N1C · Today 11:29
Two sides to this coin...

Side 1 - he's a twat, and belittles you
Side 2 - you're making mistakes regularly... and if they're the same mistakes, (and even if they're not), I'd be looking into why these are happening. Over the past week, I can't think of anything my partner has 'messed up', so if milk is being left out, or say, you're not flushing the toilet, or not locking the house, the problem is more 'you', with a side of him being a twat.
or as someone said above realise that the person who makes the mistakes might be the person who does everything around the house and or he might be pulling op up on things that aren’t mistakes- milk left out- why doesn’t he put it back wordlessly?! I honestly never say things but fucking men. Why do they feel the need to point out everything, do we? Honestly do we? If dh left something out id just put it away!!!

He sounds really nasty. I would be seriously considering ending this marriage.

Funny. You could say that each time.

he doesn't do it in front of other people though. only to me, and in front of my MIL - probably because he knows she will always laugh along with him.

Apple hasn't fallen far then.

Have you seen Mum the tv show? He sounds like the hideous mother of Kelly. She mocked her all the time. So childish.

Fucking hell, this is just horrible. You are choosing to stay with a man who gets off on humiliating you in front of his mother. It's honestly just reprehensible. Raise your standards, op.

I'm worried that you kind of agree with him, OP, that if you retaliate he says YOU are causing conflict. No, it is NOT you causing conflict, this is all on him. He is a nasty bullying twat. He thinks he is being oh so clever and bullying 'under the radar' and outwitting you so that you don't even know you're being abused. Stuff that. What a complete and utter wanker. Vile.

You are choosing to stay

@Ginge88 posted at 9.48 this morning, it's been just over a couple of hours. Give her a chance to process her thoughts at least. And perhaps criticise the husband rather than his victim.

He should give up.his day job and go on stage

Are you married to David Brent?

My favourite phrase when DH is being a dick is"feel free". "Feel free to put the milk back in the fridge without expecting an Olympic medal", "Feel free to do your own laundry" etc etc. Tends to work quite quickly

hahaha

I would leave a partner who did this.

It's such a mocking contemptful way to behave, it's not a funny joke, where is the actual humour

Sounds like he's actually feeling inadequate, and this is his immature way of boosting himself up, at your expense. Yanbu to hate it.

When I heard him say it I'd probably roll my eyes and ask him who he thinks he is talking to when he says things like this. Make him sound like a weirdo for doing it, because it doesn't sound like he'll stop out of kindness.

Husbands are meant to actually like you, you know that, right? I read some threads on this page and simply can’t believe what I’m reading at times.