AIBU to ignore this? Caught having sex.

[Mortifiedhere]

I’m mortified as I think my 14 year old son heard or even saw my husband and I having sex last night.

I’m not 100% sure though.

We had our windows open and I hadn’t realised our bedroom door had swung open in the breeze (we both thought door was firmly closed, bedroom is an L shape and you can’t see the door from the bed, we can’t add a lock as it’s a rental).

We were in the middle of it and heard the bathroom door close. It was after midnight so we thought our son would be fast asleep.

This morning my son seems grumpier than usual, although to be fair he is quite grumpy these days. Typical moody teen.

I don’t feel I can raise it, as I’m not positive he definitely heard/saw anything. Therefore AIBU to just ignore it if he doesn’t mention anything?

If he does mention it obviously I’ll apologise but I’m just mortified and worried we’ve scarred him for life.

Has this happened to anyone else? How did you handle it? Argggghhhhhh

Caught stepmonster on her knees in front of awful father once!! Now that scarred me!! 🤢

It's good for kids to know their parents have normal love lives and that includes the physical side of things. You don't need to do anything now even if he did see/hear something. Sex between 2 consenting adults is completely normal, don't stigmatise sex.

DS used to burst in on us but never caught us doing anything. DH had a word and told him if he didn't knock he'd see something that would necessitate him bleaching his eyeballs one day. He now knocks and waits

There are much worse things he could see than his parents loving one another.

Why would he come in your bedroom after midnight without knocking the door? Surely by that age he'd know better?

Jesus the things mums will find to feel "guilt" over.

He might have heard you. He might not. You're allowed to have sex in the dead of night.

There is nothing to apologise for and tbh if it was me I would have already forgotten about it unless kid brought it up!

Just don't worry about it? He's 14, not 4.

be more concerned that, as an adult, you don't know when to use subject and object pronouns. I will give you a hint " and I" is only correct when it is the subject of the sentence.

If you can't see the door from the bed, and presumably vice versa, he'd have had to come into your room to see you - in which case he'd be the one who should apologise for coming in to a bedroom uninvited.

Dont raise it trust me he will be mortified i heard my parents loads…they dont wanna address it trust me!

Why is he walking into your room? He's 14, not 4

I once walked in on my GRANDPARENTS! I was 15, and horrified. A summer Sunday afternoon, we always just used to go into their house by the back door, which was only locked at night. They lived in a bungalow but their bedroom door was open.

Admittedly, I was already having sex myself by 14 so it wasn’t a shocking mystery but walking in on anyone is awful for all concerned.

Doesn’t sound like your son is any the wiser, OP. I wouldn’t worry. Just get a wedge for your door.

You’ve done nothing wrong, OP. No need to feel guilty or ashamed. I’d just leave it.

I do think it’s a shame that so many ill-intentioned posters have made idiotic comments on this thread though. It is still a relatively new thing - all these incel types chipping in with comments intended to shame women. I do with they’d go away.

Your in danger of making more of it than it actually is forget about it and move on anyway he's a teenager and probably knows more about sex than you give him credit for

Why would a 14 year old walk into their parents room? He went to the bathroom, might've heard something but surely not seen you? Anyway, he probably knows his parents have sex now and again.

If you haven't already, watch Kevin and Perry go large with him. It's funny and it puts it in to context. Sooner or later it will be a funny moment.

As I daughter that heard their parents too, I can say it's pretty disgusting ahahah sorry I don't want to add more guilty to your feelings. In terms of your question, it's all down to the relationship that you have with your son. Mostly, think about the impact that will have on your head instead. Good luck 🤞

People have sex. I really don't think this is a huge deal. I wouldn't apologise or even acknowledge it. I would put a lock on the door though. I don't see why it being a rental means you can't put a lock on the door.

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Hogwash. 14 year olds are more savy than you are giving them credit for. He will hopefully realise he invaded their privacy and will not mention it. That's if he saw anything. It's no big deal.

You can get a thing that's stops toddlers opening cupboard doors which stick on and remove without marks. You can use that as a temporary lock that you can only use from inside the room

My son walked in on me and my partner having sex and I was on top no covers over us butt naked so count ya self lucky lol

My teenage brothers used to listen to our parents having sex through the wardrobe doors as their bedroom adjoined my parents bedroom. They thought it was funny.

He didn't go into their room.