AIBU to ignore this? Caught having sex.

[Mortifiedhere]

I’m mortified as I think my 14 year old son heard or even saw my husband and I having sex last night.

I’m not 100% sure though.

We had our windows open and I hadn’t realised our bedroom door had swung open in the breeze (we both thought door was firmly closed, bedroom is an L shape and you can’t see the door from the bed, we can’t add a lock as it’s a rental).

We were in the middle of it and heard the bathroom door close. It was after midnight so we thought our son would be fast asleep.

This morning my son seems grumpier than usual, although to be fair he is quite grumpy these days. Typical moody teen.

I don’t feel I can raise it, as I’m not positive he definitely heard/saw anything. Therefore AIBU to just ignore it if he doesn’t mention anything?

If he does mention it obviously I’ll apologise but I’m just mortified and worried we’ve scarred him for life.

Has this happened to anyone else? How did you handle it? Argggghhhhhh

Don't even mention. It. That would be a big mistake. I mean why would you.

Is this sarcasm? @Riapia if you’re not using humour here, I’m a concerned for you. 💐

Ah yes, the naked dash to the bathroom using a phone torch when staying in a place with no ensuite and other people… always a gamble 😂

just cross your fingers he doesn't tell his mates

I would imagine that 100 texts were exchanged in the first hour this morning. 😂

It’s sarcasm🙄But children are grossed out if it’s their parents. I still would be and I’m an adult.

I think it’s kind of weird when posters act like they grew up hearing their parents grunting and moaning.

What’s with all the self-flagellation?

I wouldn’t say anything, just ignore and get the wedge for the door.
My mother gave me the ‘when adults love each other very much’ chat when I was in the same position and I nearly died of embarrassment at that age, I would have rathered them make a quick joke and moved swiftly on!

A kid of 14 knows his parents have sex but will be totally grossed out about it. Don’t say a word.

My friend got pregnant again when her daughter was 14. The daughter’s response was to look disgusting and she said, ‘ughh that means you’ve been having sex’🤮😂.

My dh has night terrors and one night he dreamed that I was falling so he grabbed me and was shouting and being half asleep I started screaming.
The next day I said to teen dd ‘you didn’t come to chk when I was screaming because your df was having a night terror, it could have been a murderer attacking us.’

She replied ‘well, I heard you but I didn’t know what sort of screaming it was and didn’t want to walk in on you and dad so I ignored it.’

Totally unphased. Although I did point out that those were not the screams of someone enjoying sex.

When we were about 8 we couldn’t even look the parents of a girl in our class in the eye as they had a large family - which meant, we reasoned, they had done it x number of times. At least our parents all stuck to 2 or 3 aberrative moments of debauched madness…

To be fair until the OP supplies us with more details we don't if what he heard was normal for adults in a loving relationship.

He might have heard OP's DP laboriously turning the windlass of a squeaking trebuchet filled with sriracha.

😂

I’m too innocent ( or unimaginative) to know what that would be involved in!

The average age for first having sex in the UK is 17, so yes, I don't think 14 is typical especially.

Eeep! I would ask if eveything is ok and see if he says anything about it. No need to apologise just yet.

I do think that, whilst normal in a loving adult relationship, it’s never not awkward to hear others having sex, especially your parents…and especially when you are 14.

Why apologise for him having seen anything? In his parents’ room? In the middle of the night? 🙄

Don't say a word. Your son will be mortified if you say anything. You also don't know if he saw/heard anything either! Just leave it.

If he didn’t see or hear anything you’ll come across as boasting😂

The thought of that makes me cringe myself inside out! 😂😂😂

I’d rather just plead ignorance and forget it ever happened! I certainly wouldn’t be apologising!

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. Pretend you donmr know he might have seen or heard anything.

I don't see why a teen would be moody about it, so it's probably unrelated @Mortifiedhere . I'dve thought he'd find it funny if anything.

We all know by 14 that married couples with children just might have sex sometimes.

Nah. My kids caught ex and I a couple of times. It’s part of life.🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

Yes perfectly normal sex. No yelling or dungeon style equipment.

I’ve just been on a walk with him and he was chatty as usual, so I’m beginning to think he didn’t hear anything anyway. Hopefully he was half asleep going to the loo.

For those criticising me, I already felt bad and I’ve learned my lesson thanks!

Thanks everyone else for all the kind advice and the funny stories.

What a fuss. He's 14 he must know his parents have sex and if he doesn't then that is a problem.

Just make sure that your door is properly closed next time.