For best friend / bridesmaid to reject abroad hen do?

[Reignydays]

I am the bridesmaid for one of my longest and closest friends getting married in Spring 2025.

Bride and MOH have put a message in the hen do group chat this morning that the plan for hen do is a 5 hour flight and 4 night break in April, about a month before the wedding.

I have just come off maternity leave and working part time. I do not know if I will be comfortable leaving DC for that amount of time nor can I afford it. I also have another 2 weddings in 2025 so 3 hen do’s next year.

I feel like as a best friend and bridesmaid I should go to her hen, but I just do not think I can afford it or be able too.

I worry that everyone else will think I’m being unreasonable in the group chat and she will question if she wants me to be bridesmaid.

Aww, MOH can't think that much of the bride otherwise she'd be paying for everyone so that bride gets her dream hen do!

This is very wise.
Lay out your stall.
You are a new mother and you might find one night is more than enough.
Do not be committing your money to something you may be allergic to the idea of when you return to work.

Some women take off for a few days with babies and good luck to them, but for others they find after being at work they don't want to.

The key thing is that you do not get locked into a commitment you might regret.