Am I selfish to consider having a child alone?

[Mildredpettigrew]

I'm not good at getting men to want to date me/have a relationship with me unfortunately despite being considered attractive, nice and so on.
So I've accepted it may never happen.

It feels kinda hurtful to see all the married couples and children and consider that they may never happen, but that's how it is.

I've dated lots, they just don't feel the spark. I've tried my best, I'm very slim, attractive, have hobbies, financially independent, kind, told I'm funny, intelligent etc. They just don't feel a spark.

I know having a baby alone is controversial. I may have to look into other alternatives, because meeting someone may well never happen for me.

That's a straw man argument.

Just do it.
I'm soon to be a single parent as my husband has terminal cancer.
He is only 4 and may not even remember much of his dad.
So even 2 parent families go tits up.

So sorry to hear this. Sending prayers and strength to you.

I am nearly 30. I have one 4YO DC but their dad left for another woman. I would love another DC but I am the same, have not met anyone else and don't think I will do. I would consider IUI in the future but I have been told it would be selfish to have two DCs with no dad in their lives. But I do have a good support network already and my DC is very much loved by myself and the rest of the family and I love the bond that we have.