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Is my sisters accident my fault?

272 replies

Babybirdmum · 01/08/2024 18:02

—my sister fell over my child’s toy in my garden and broke her nose/hurt her front teeth.
-I called an ambulance, cared for her, hubby sent text afterwards, I said I’m sorry this happened.
-after I was saying how awful, I googled what happens when you bang your teeth. Kept saying it’s awful.
-she doesn’t remember me saying sorry but I guess she was in shock.
-we have a difficult relationship but have been getting on well recently.
-she phoned me to say if it was at a restaurant then she would sue them, implying that I should give her some compensation. (Because my mum said “she just wants an apology” and she said in the background “no I don’t, I want more”)
-I said are you joking and laughed. She look offence.she said speak to my lawyers (she doesn’t have lawyers so I did t know how to take this).—I was really upset. Accused her of asking me for money to fund her extravagant lifestyle.
-my mum was on speaker during the phone too. She said sister just wanted an apology.
-seems like she wanted money and because I got upset she was blaming me, changed it to wanting an apology. She said she didn’t think I was sorry it happened. I feel I’ve been very compassionate. Not sure what else I could’ve done?
-need outside opinions as I have no clue whether it’s me or her that’s in the wrong. I’ve apologised to her but she doesn’t care how hurt I feel about the phone call, especially when I feel like I’ve supported her.

OP posts:
EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 01/08/2024 18:05

It sounds like an accident. Can you think of a way she can prove you were negligent in the eyes of the law?

littlebitfat · 01/08/2024 18:05

She's being ridiculous. Of course you're not ANBU!
It was an accident and she sounds like very hard work. If it was the other way round, would you expect her to give you money?

Sirzy · 01/08/2024 18:05

She tripped over a toy in a house with children. It’s a shame she has hurt herself but it’s part and parcel of being in a house with children.

I hope you don’t invite her around again!

YourMumDressesYouFunny · 01/08/2024 18:06

Unless you threw it at her feet whilst she was walking I fail to see how her tripping over a toy was your fault.

Watto1 · 01/08/2024 18:06

You can’t be held responsible for your sister not looking where she was going.

cadburyegg · 01/08/2024 18:07

Wtf have I just read? It was an accident, she fell over, not taking care of where she was going.

It's so often the ones demanding apologies who are the ones in the wrong!

2chocolateoranges · 01/08/2024 18:08

She should have been watching where she was walking! You can’t be blamed for her not paying attention to her surroundings.

Dotto · 01/08/2024 18:08

Tell her to fuck off

itsmylife7 · 01/08/2024 18:08

Watto1 · 01/08/2024 18:06

You can’t be held responsible for your sister not looking where she was going.

Exactly this.

You're sister is being ridiculous.

Dotto · 01/08/2024 18:09

And retract your apology, you have nothing to apologise for and she's using it as an admission of guilt

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 01/08/2024 18:10

No she is being absolutely ridiculous.
She wasn't at a restaurant, she was at your home. It's not even nearly the same thing.

BuggeryBumFlaps · 01/08/2024 18:10

Sue you hahaha, did she break the toy? Maybe you clutter sue for the damage she did to the toy.

Just tell her you did apologise and cared for her, called an ambulance etc the drop the subject.

OhmygodDont · 01/08/2024 18:10

She tripped over a stationary toy? Completely an issue for her and her alone.

Would she sue the council if she tripped over a rock on the beach ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

CottonwoolCubes · 01/08/2024 18:11

Your family sound dysfunctional.

If your sister can't pick her feet up when there are toys in the floor, it's best she doesn't visit again.

You are not at fault - she was clumsy.

K0OLA1D · 01/08/2024 18:11

I think I'd take a step back and go back to not being close. She sounds barmey! Your mum also sounds like she's enabling her batshittery

meganorks · 01/08/2024 18:12

She needs to take responsibility for herself. Clearly what she is thinking is 'if this had happened somewhere else i could milk it for all its worth and get some money'. And she could try but wouldn't necessarily be successful. But she tripped over a toy in your house - that's on her.
I bet she is one of those people who would claim they had whiplash in any kind of car accident.

Sunshineafterthehail · 01/08/2024 18:13

Tell her it's a shame it wasn't recorded. You could have shared the You've Been Framed money!! She is an idiot.

SouthLondonMum22 · 01/08/2024 18:14

Why are you apologising? She wasn’t looking where she was going. If anyone is to blame, it’s her.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 01/08/2024 18:16

SouthLondonMum22 · 01/08/2024 18:14

Why are you apologising? She wasn’t looking where she was going. If anyone is to blame, it’s her.

^^This.
I would be very wary of asking her to my house in future; she’s clearly out for what she can get rather than accepting it was her own fault and an accident.
Stupid woman.

User79853257976 · 01/08/2024 18:17

She should have been looking where she was going.

saraclara · 01/08/2024 18:18

Have you asked her (or your mum) what you're expected to apologise for?

Worst case scenario, your home insurance should cover you for any action she takes. Maybe check your cover, and if your insurance includes free advice from a legal telephone helpline (most do) then give them a call if it starts to look like she's actually serious.

DavidBeckhamsrightfoot · 01/08/2024 18:19

Ask your mum what it is exactly you need to apologise for.

Honestly though I'd block the both of them

MermaidEyes · 01/08/2024 18:19

Your sister's a clumsy twat and I agree with someone up thread that your family sound dysfunctional.

TheSerenePinkOrca · 01/08/2024 18:21

What do you need to apologise for?!?!

It's entirely her fault for not looking where she was going!

Your sister sounds awful!

ExtraOnions · 01/08/2024 18:22

If (and it’s an if) she needs expensive dental work, she may be able to claim on your insurance.

It’s still an accident though, I don’t get why she is angry.. things happen. I could write you a list of incidents the my siblings have had at each others houses (big family)..never any drama