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Is my sisters accident my fault?

272 replies

Babybirdmum · 01/08/2024 18:02

—my sister fell over my child’s toy in my garden and broke her nose/hurt her front teeth.
-I called an ambulance, cared for her, hubby sent text afterwards, I said I’m sorry this happened.
-after I was saying how awful, I googled what happens when you bang your teeth. Kept saying it’s awful.
-she doesn’t remember me saying sorry but I guess she was in shock.
-we have a difficult relationship but have been getting on well recently.
-she phoned me to say if it was at a restaurant then she would sue them, implying that I should give her some compensation. (Because my mum said “she just wants an apology” and she said in the background “no I don’t, I want more”)
-I said are you joking and laughed. She look offence.she said speak to my lawyers (she doesn’t have lawyers so I did t know how to take this).—I was really upset. Accused her of asking me for money to fund her extravagant lifestyle.
-my mum was on speaker during the phone too. She said sister just wanted an apology.
-seems like she wanted money and because I got upset she was blaming me, changed it to wanting an apology. She said she didn’t think I was sorry it happened. I feel I’ve been very compassionate. Not sure what else I could’ve done?
-need outside opinions as I have no clue whether it’s me or her that’s in the wrong. I’ve apologised to her but she doesn’t care how hurt I feel about the phone call, especially when I feel like I’ve supported her.

OP posts:
AGodawfulsmallaffair · 01/08/2024 18:22

Oh my God, she’s a twat and I wouldn’t be speaking to her again. Why the fuck is your mum enabling her? What a pair.

Boomer55 · 01/08/2024 18:24

Ignore her silliness. 🙄

Iloveacurry · 01/08/2024 18:25

I would just say to her that you said you were sorry repeatedly, and if she doesn’t want to accept it, then that’s her choice.

sparkles79 · 01/08/2024 18:26

Sounds like she's been watching too many US dramas

alwaysmovingforwards · 01/08/2024 18:30

Yikes, I simply can’t imagine sharing my life with people like your sister.
I feel for you x

Astonmaid · 01/08/2024 18:31

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 01/08/2024 18:05

It sounds like an accident. Can you think of a way she can prove you were negligent in the eyes of the law?

I hope you're joking 😂

Viviennemary · 01/08/2024 18:32

It was an accident. It doesn't sound as if you were negligent. She should have been looking where she was going.

Funnywonder · 01/08/2024 18:35

Good grief, it was an accident. You don't even owe her an apology, let alone compensation. 'I'm so sorry that happened to you' - yes, absolutely. 'I'm so sorry and it's my fault' - no way.

Babybirdmum · 01/08/2024 18:36

Thank you yes my family are dysfunctional and it was because the toy was wedged under a bench

OP posts:
FortunataTagnips · 01/08/2024 18:38

Sounds like she needs to be wedged under a bench.

dapsnotplimsolls · 01/08/2024 18:38

FortunataTagnips · 01/08/2024 18:38

Sounds like she needs to be wedged under a bench.

😁

BlimminCat · 01/08/2024 18:39

I wouldnt have her over your house again given she has implied she would try and sue you, she sounds awful.

Bluetrews25 · 01/08/2024 18:40

Had alcohol been taken?

FlamingoQueen · 01/08/2024 18:41

Perhaps offer to pay for an eye test for her! She obviously can’t see where she’s going!

summerdazey · 01/08/2024 18:43

Go NC

Sunshineafterthehail · 01/08/2024 18:43

Counter sue her if she broke the toy.

suburberphobe · 01/08/2024 18:43

She should be looking where she's walking. End of.

Hummingbird75 · 01/08/2024 18:44

This is not your fault.

I would still send flowers and wish her well.

jf1992x · 01/08/2024 18:44

Sorry OP but she sounds like a complete head case 😅 I'd have nothing to do when her if she was my sibling!

savethatkitty · 01/08/2024 18:45

Just desserts I'd say. Your sister sounds positively awful. Meow.

Londonrach1 · 01/08/2024 18:46

How can you be responsible for your sister not looking where she walks. It's a house with children and toys everywhere. Did you throw the toy under her foot? Suggest specsavers... (Joking)

Couldyounot · 01/08/2024 18:47

Dotto · 01/08/2024 18:08

Tell her to fuck off

Can't improve on this as a response

brunettemic · 01/08/2024 18:48

Tell her to get fucked.

alrightluv · 01/08/2024 18:48

She's batshit 🤣

Your dm sounds enabling. Poor you.

Bellatrixpure · 01/08/2024 18:49

Shes deluded. She sounds clumsy, does she have these stumbles often? Do not engage with her anymore on this