MIL massive stroke 3 days before holiday

[NoSourDough]

We are due to fly to Greece tomorrow evening.

MIL (79) had a serious (second) stroke on Tuesday morning. The first one was 2 years ago, she has been bed ridden since that first one with limited speech and mobility.

We saw her Sunday morning and she was fine (she was still living at home with my BIL and carers coming in 4 times a day) but sadly had another stroke on Tuesday.

Shes in hospital and unresponsive, consultant yesterday said it’s doubtful she will come out of hospital. It’s palliative now however a waiting game.

DH morally cannot leave his brother or MIL and come on holiday (understandably). Travel insurance will not cover this third party event (we have checked).

We have a 12 year old DD who has never been on a plane before and has been looking forward to this holiday for months.

DH insists that I should take her whilst he stays here. I feel like MIL could be in this condition for weeks, perhaps he could come but I understand that would be unreasonable. His brother is telling him to come but DH won’t do it.

Should I travel alone for 10 days to Greece with DD? What would you do?

Glad to hear both you and your DH are going. If it was my sibling I'd want them to go on holiday.

Your child isn't a baby anymore, I think you'll be fine together. 💝

I am so glad you have managed to get DH to go and you are all going away as a family. Honestly your DH being around at her bedside would not have made any difference especially if she’s unconscious now.

far better and more constructive to spend some family time together. On a practical level, you’ve spent so much money on the holiday/ insurance - don’t waste it; especially if your DH himself has health issues.

enjoy your holiday and being together as a family.X

@NoSourDough I hope you all managed to get away and are now relaxing in Santorini. It will do you all good to be having a break, whatever happens

Intrigued to know what the word is and what it translates to?

DH had a big birthday, I organized a WE abroad with our two children, their partners and babies. Mil was in hospital for observation, the doctors told us to yes go, nothing would change and when we came back we could move her to assisted facilities. Mil was stable, only a bit out of it. We left a day ahead because of very long drive. First night : phonecall from the hospital at midnight, Mil had died. Husband and I sat and talked it through. He's an only child, like both of his parents. Hardly any family. All the people who really matter to us were already on their way to meet us. So we decided not to return to our own country but to continue to the destination, tell our children in person their grandma died, spend the WE together and then go home. Next morning we called the undertaker we already knew from when Fil died, they did a great job and took care of everything that needed to be done right then. After the WE we drove home in one day, taking turns because it was a 12 hour drive. Next day straight to the undertakers. Funeral etc. went perfectly. Some people told us it was harsh what we did, but we were all together as a family, only not at home. I would do it again, no regrets!

Hi all, an update for those still invested. She has somewhat stabilised - we are having daily updates from BIL. They are going to put in a feeding tube to prolong things for a few weeks, so looks like we will be home before anything major changes to her condition.
thanks again for your own comments and personal similar stories.

To add, I absolutely could have come here by myself with DD, Santorini is beautiful and so safe. DH is having a much needed rest.

Wonderful update . X

Thanks for updating us OP and glad you’re having a good break.

Pleased to see your update @NoSourDough and I'm glad that your DH is getting some much needed rest.

Great update, OP. Enjoy (all of you)!

Enjoy, glad you've all got away.
Hope you have a blast. And remember that BIL is a star for persuading DH to go.