Aibu to want to homeschool my child with everything going on

[Ella2001]

Has anyone heard of that horrid south port attack 3 children died from 17 year old boy stabbing them at a Taylor Swift dance class? 😭 with stabbings in uk AIBU to wanna home school her ? I’m honestly soo scared to send her to school. She’s only 9 months but I keep on thinking for her future . I’m in Northern Ireland I know this awful attack happened in England but it happens everywhere and I’m genuinely terrified for my baby.

Absolutely. We are home educating our daughter. The world is nuts and I don't trust it with my precious child.

Also I know this didn’t happen at a school it was a dance class , but with the amount of stabbings and children being targeted I’d be worried of sending her anywhere :(

Thankfully these things are rare, which is part of the reason why they're so shocking. Of course it's normal to worry when you have a child, but please do seek some support also. To be concerned about the danger of school when they're years off of being due to start doesn't sound like it's going to do positive things for your headspace.

So you honestly think it is healthy to lock your child away just because an event happened? If this is real I would really suggest saving up for counselling for them now

Statistically more likely your LO will come to harm by you or your family.

Life is scary, but this event is a once in a lifetime thing - like Dunblane.

That would be a complete over-reaction to an incredibly rare event.
How does she cope when she has to go out into the world alone?

No, I wouldn’t lock her away. I’m just feeling anxious about her future with everything going on in the world .

Yes everyone has heard of this tragic event because it was front page news because these things are so rare. Being homeschooled wouldn’t have protected these children as they weren’t at school - are you planning to keep her locked in your house all the time? I think you know that’s not healthy or possible

Has anyone heard of it? Anyone who hasn't must be living under a rock. And frankly, get a grip on yourself. They weren't killed at school. Are you never going to take your daughter to a 2 hour activity?

Okay maybe I’ve worded wrong , I’d never lock her up my goodness !! I’m just feeling anxious for her future , the world is unpredictable and scary . Homeschooling is definitely unlikely but I’ve heard of a few other mums doing it for that type of reason and wanted to know if it was necessary

You cannot live like that. School teaches children so much more that reading and writing. How to share, socialise, make friends, communicate.

my heart goes out to the families of those beautiful girls - RIP and wish the victims who are injured a speedy recovery

Home schooling if done right is perfectly fine if you want to ensure your daughter has a good education but if your motivation for doing so is because the world is a crazy scary place is slightly irrational in my opinion

Well my mum hasn’t heard of it when I told her 😅 so not everyone knows . And I never said that and I made it clear in comments I knew it wasn’t at a school . I never said I wouldn’t , but I’d feel anxious about it

Are you never going to take her out? Let her travel in a car, for example? Because statistically, she's much more likely to be injured or killed in a road traffic accident.

The solution for you is treatment for your anxiety, not denying your child a normal life.

Well you can feel anxious all you like; what you shouldn't do is restrict her life, opportunities, and freedoms because of your emotions. That's selfish and unfair.

Hundreds of thousands of kids go to summer activities during the holidays and are fine.

I Home Educated my children.

Home educating for philosophical reasons, or even political reasons is one thing

Homeschooling out of fear that some random harmful event may happen to your children is not a good reason.

After all, some stabbings of children have happened outside in public places. So even if you homeschool something untoward could happen during a trip or whilst out and about in general.

Also, I point out that many home educating parents take great pains to ensure their children have social interaction and that often involves group activities in rented/volunteered spaces.

So logically this doesn't make sense OP.

Asking is it unreasonable to homeschool my child has now turned into apparently locking her up and throwing away the key. Ofcourse I’m not like that , I would take her anywhere she wanted to go but I’d be very anxious about it after that

Absolutely don't do this for these reasons. Don't allow your fears to hold her back from exploring life in her own way. The situation was horrific but stuff like this is so so rare and even when it happens the chance of your little one being there at the exact second something awful happens is even more unlikely. Don't create an anxious child because you are anxious. It will only her her back in her life, career and experiences.

I am not necessarily saying home schooling will hold her back but your reasons behind it will.

You need to address your own anxiety, so it doesn't negatively affect your child. Those events are terrible but so incredibly rare. Schools are very safe and secure - nothing is 100% safe, even staying home. Driving a car is probably the most statistically dangerous thing you'll do with your child, and I bet you do that.

As per PPs, you need to manage your anxiety. She is more likely to be abused by a relative/family friend than stabbed at school or an activity.

I'm all for home schooling but I'm concerned that doing it out of anxiety of taking your child anywhere is the wrong approach. Especially when home schooling means you are likely to be out and about a lot at different classes, groups and community locations. Unfortunately there is an element of risk in life no matter what you do, you just have to remember you're very unlikely to be caught up in something like that.

Your child will be safe at school. All schools round here have locked gates outside drop off pickup time. And there is no way to access any of the classroom's without getting over a locked gate with high fences or going through reception which has a push back screen.
Besides if you say no to school where do you draw the line? Will you allow her to go to the shops? The park? A friend's house? How will you react when she's a teenager and decides to go to uni 100 miles away?

Anxiety seems to be endless excuse on here, deal with that if you are that anxious how on earth could you successfully home-schooling a child?

Let alone putting your issues on to her none of it makes sense

By definition that's not once in a lifetime then is it? Many people alive now were also alive during dunblane, hungerford massacre, that nutter with a shotgun in Plymouth a few years ago etc..