Aibu to want to homeschool my child with everything going on

[Ella2001]

Has anyone heard of that horrid south port attack 3 children died from 17 year old boy stabbing them at a Taylor Swift dance class? 😭 with stabbings in uk AIBU to wanna home school her ? I’m honestly soo scared to send her to school. She’s only 9 months but I keep on thinking for her future . I’m in Northern Ireland I know this awful attack happened in England but it happens everywhere and I’m genuinely terrified for my baby.

Children don't necessarily know! Ours weren't aware of the precautions I mentioned above, taken for their safety, they also didn't know until the fantastic Deutschland 83 was on TV that we had had briefings and detailed instructions were in the sideboard covering what would happen should the 'balloon go up'!

Life is scary, but this event is a once in a lifetime thing - like Dunblane.

Once in a lifetime was once to many for the children that lost their life.

No but not allowing independence because of a parents anxiety is.

I feel sorry for your daughter.

Are you going to keep her inside for life?

Never said i wasn’t going to allow her independence. I said I was anxious , ME ! But I push through my anxiety day in and out to MAKE SURE she doesn’t grow up in fear like I did

A primary school is probably one of the safest places a child in the UK could be. Just thinking about my own child's school, you would need to get past a locked gate/fence with CCTV, a second locked gate/fence which is a good 8ft high, through past staff in reception and through 2 sets of locked doors before you'd even come into contact with a child.

Homschooling can be beneficial for certain children who need it and it being done properly, not because mummy has issues

I totally get your anxiety - everyone who is a parent will.
However, this didn't happen at school - by this rationale, you'd need to lock her away from the whole world and that is no life to lead. Children need and deserve to be in the world with friends and space to explore and learn.

Take her outside today in the sun and stop to notice summertime - see the butterflies and the dappled sun among the trees and listen to the birds sing. Show your daughter all the wonders these poor little girls can no longer enjoy and make sure to see some joy in the moment.

Okay i maybe getting confused with the school situation with people home schooling their children in America cause of school shootings , I’m now aware schools here are safe !

My mum was one of these. She homeschooled me for secondary and tried to fool herself that it was because we didn't like school. I was playing along with her delusion as I knew it would make her happy and kinder to me.

I barely got any gcses and had to actually go to college and do resits.

It is 100% parental anxiety.

At the primary age maybe parents feel fooled by how easy it is - maybe a bit of basic numeracy and literacy they can cope with but what about gcse and alevel.

Will you be able to teach your child and help them understand the structure of an atom? Or quadratic equations. Or to speak another language? Because these things are not intuitive and you need to be taught by someone who knows what it all means.

Are you literally never going to leave the house with her OP?

@Edingril
"Anxiety seems to be endless excuse on here, deal with that if you are that anxious how on earth could you successfully home-schooling a child?

Let alone putting your issues on to her none of it makes sense"

I guess you've not had anxiety. Anxiety is a mental health condition not an excuse. Anxiety is irrational. It is awful to have and experience it. Nobody wants to have it or live with it.

(It's not to be confused with being anxious which is a normal part of being human and the range of emotions we experience.)

I suffer from anxiety and have intrusive thoughts about this sort of thing all the time.

but, realistically: this is most likely not to happen again in the UK: last time it happened was about 30 years ago.

your child will most certainly be absolutely fine at nursery and school

I do, everyday ?

I'm not sure if anyone has picked up on the OP being from Northern Ireland. While she herself seems too young to have lived through the troubles, her parents and people around her won't be - and people's decision making was definitely impacted by the fear of sudden attacks - well that's the point of terrorism really, to provoke fear. OP this is a much safer time for you to be bringing your lo up than it was previously, and you are in generally a safer part of the U.K.

Thank you so much.

@Ella2001 I think you are being unfairly treated in this thread.

My son is 25 and they have had their first daughter. We live in NI too and thank god for it every day.

I think we don't see half the social issues they do in England. I have relatives in Liverpool and this has been the decider for them to move home.

Home schooling isn't as Prevalent here as it is over there. However it does seem to be popular choice in Special needs kids. (I home schooled my youngest as he was not being taught the curriculum in his SN school)

Your wee baby is only 9 months and you are still shiny new mummy and wanting to protect her from everything.

You will learn as she grows that she needs more than you to flourish and I can bet by the time she is 4 you will be glad of the respite for her to go to school.

Our culture and society in NI is different to that over the water at the minute. I honestly feel we are safer. Long may that last.

Enjoy being a mama and cherish this time with baby. Don't let anxiety rule your life or detract from your parenting. Join social groups for mums and babies and socialise in a safe space. ❤️

You need to be really careful that your anxiety does not rub off on your child, what happened is incredibly rare, most schools have security measures in place anyway.

Thank you !

There are certainly valid reasons that you might want to homeschool a child.

Being scared that they will be stabbed if they leave the house without you is not a valid reason.

You really, really need to deal with your anxiety because this is a disproportionate and irrational response.

No I haven't heard of the Southport attacķ at all.🙄
Get help for your anxiety.

Has anyone heard of it?

I would rush to send your child to school when its time, you are too anxious to home school a child

She is statistically much more likely to die in a car crash.

I appreciate your nice comment , thank you so much 💗

It is,scary but these things are rare. It's normal to feel overwhelmed with emotions and a baby.

Think of it this way, my ds has a gf who was home schooled, home degree abd works from home. He said she can't even ask for help in a shop. She needs ds to help her function. I don't really want my son being this girls carer as she is so socially stunted ( I'd never voice that of course). She has been so over protected she can't be independent.

My own dd is very confident.