Aibu to want to homeschool my child with everything going on

[Ella2001]

Has anyone heard of that horrid south port attack 3 children died from 17 year old boy stabbing them at a Taylor Swift dance class? 😭 with stabbings in uk AIBU to wanna home school her ? I’m honestly soo scared to send her to school. She’s only 9 months but I keep on thinking for her future . I’m in Northern Ireland I know this awful attack happened in England but it happens everywhere and I’m genuinely terrified for my baby.

Even if you homeschool it’s not healthy to be with child 24/7. Children need to socialise independently. Most attend some type of activity sports, dancing, brownies. What if she wants to do something you can’t constantly say no.
My mum’s elderly neighbour was an only born in war (dad killed) and basically she and mum were always together. She didn’t marry until later life and husband moved in. She was bereaved by both husband and mum dying in quick succession and in her 70s had never been in a shop alone etc. She barely leaves house and whilst she’s had a long life she hasn’t lived.

How has your mum not heard of it?

Does she live in a bubble with no radio, or tv or speak to anyone outside at all?

Are the people who keep asking is she never going to leave the house actually reading the thread or just jumping on to take a pop at the wee girl!

Can yes read?? She's telling you all you're not listening! FFS!

There are over 360 school shootings a year in the USA, you can buy bullet proof backpacks for your children and ovously the chances of this happening will vary from state to state. But it's so common now that we don't here about every incident unless it involves mass casualties. We have been watching a US show (SWAT for anyone interested) they had one episode coving this topic. They talked about how to spot early signs to prevent incidents. I'm still amazed that there isn't a bigger call to ban guns in the US for this reason especially the semi automatic kind which have been involved in the most recent mass shootings.

As far as the UK goes we are in a much better position, guns aren't available and while knives are an issue they aren't as deadly as a semi automatic. Schools here are already difficult to enter due to safeguarding in recent years.

I think it's groups like this that are more venerable and easier to target.

Well after this, I won’t be homeschooling her. I probably never would have anyway just wanted to know other peoples thoughts

NI is one of the safest places in Europe, and Ireland one of the safest in the world. Listening to a news programme yesterday on the issue of knife crime, it said that NI does not have knife crimes, in the same way they seem to occur in other parts of the UK. Schools are also very safe here, and there is not a gang culture. I do not worry one bit about sending my dc to schools or clubs in NI.

Or Dublin (21.12. 2023) ? Or Annecy (08. 06. 2023 ) France ?

That’s a pretty short lifetime (especially for some of the victims)

@Ella2001

yes the world can be a dangerous place, it is also a wonderful and exciting place. Life is meant to be lived. Homeschooling would not protect your child from randon attacks.
I’m an adoptive parent and foster carer, I know many children who have been abused by their families. About 65 children a year are murdered at the hands of their families, far more than this incident, shocking and tragic as it is.
A couple of years ago a 5 year old boy died a few streets away from where I live. His grandmother had a mental health crisis and stabbed him
Its not just random strangers who do these things

i do feel slightly better after knowing this

The same Northern Ireland that has a long history of violence with the Troubles?

Has anyone heard of that horrid south port attack

No, just you. The rest of us live under rocks.
You sound unwell.

I think it's a natural reaction OP. Everyone wants to keep their child safe. Mines only a baby and I struggle with watching the news at times, it feels like we are bringing them into such a horrible, cruel world. I know it's always been the way but I think those post partum hormones change the way you views things. I have friends in America who are homeschooling due to shootings in schools (although it is far more common).

If you weren't considering homeschooling before then I think looking at the security in the schools and clubs you choose is a better outcome for your child. Most of our local secondary schools only have the one entrance and exit though reception and a locked door that the receptionist needs to unlock for you. Lots of our local clubs however are in little village halls or libraries which are left open. Maybe security will be tightened as a response?

This is just awful 😭

No need for the laughing emoji. Not really a laughing matter is it. Do one.

When i got my hair done yesterday and asked the girl who did my hair had she heard she said no. Not everyone watches the news or lives on their phone :)

That’s not a laughing emoji ? You’re on my thread , you do one x

Then you're wrapped up in your own little bubble. I'm reporting this. You've started this to be offensive and you're way off the mark.

Yes, women and children are far more likely to be killed by men in their family.

You can't wrap your DC in cotton wool and homeschooling is far tougher than it appears.

It's not a normal response though.

When my kids were little it was the time of Isis and the Bataclan massacre etc, and I did have a lot of feelings about leaving them in nursery and driving to a different town for work.

But...that's what you do: that's life. You don't make the mistake of thinking that you're keeping your kids safe by restricting them.

Feel all the feelings you want, but recognise that they are just emotions; they'll fade as the news moves on.

But you cant just lock her up at home forever.
These things can happen anywhere, when shes out getting groceries with you for example.
Its just awful what happened and everything that happens constantly everywhere around the world. But living in fear constantly is no way to live for anyone.
So your DD cant go to school and she cant do any hobbies, because it can happen there too. When exactly can she hang out with other kids? How is she gonna grow independent if shes only with you? And who says she cant get attacked with you when out and about. Are you just gonna stay home forever?

There’s no guaranteed safety for your child, and that’s really scary. You can be sure that preventing her from ever socialising in community spaces will harm her, so you’ll come to terms with living with that risk, but there’s no risk-free option.

My children are home educated and spend far more time than average in church halls, sports centres etc. Schools must be safer in terms of this type of awful event.

You're on the Internet love. You can't own a thread. You can however own your own behaviour when you come on and write shit. You really think this is the time and place? Horrible.

Offensive ? What ? Are you actually okay?

Over 360 school shootings a year and you can purchase bullet proof backpacks for your kids😧

I had no clue it was that bad. We only hear of the big ones here.

Trying to find where the issue is here ? I’m not making fun of victims or anything so what is your issue ??