Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

[SharpOliveHam]

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Stairs are by the kitchen so the extra heat just goes straight up, while the door to the living room was shut. It was absolutely sweltering upstairs after cooking, but I don't know what the before and after difference was as there's no thermometer up there, it certainly felt a lot higher.

It was evening and had cooled down a fair amount outside, and there was even a breeze, so I went round and opened all the upstairs windows, put fans on etc.

We do have cool cloths, though don't put them in the freezer. I did offer our cat something cool to lie on but he sniffed it disdainfully and stalked off into the garden - he is cross with the heat, but pretty much all weather makes him cross.

Seriously?. The fact you seem to think someone dictating when another person can use an oven isn’t controlling is concerning. Why the hell does she get to dictate who uses what and when. Why should he be forced to eat out or eat something he either doesn’t want to or fed up off just because she says so.

It's only controlling when the male does it, surely you know MN long enough to know that!
I'm curious to know how putting an oven on heats the whole house.

@Sparrowball Ive already said it doesn't taste as nice!

I prefer jacket potatoes from the oven, am I allowed?

It wasn't an order ffs!

And all the opening and closing to put towels in and take them out will make more heat as the freezer has to work harder to maintain the temperature.

In addition, the arm, shoulder, hand and back movements OP must employ to open and close the freezer will increase her body's caloric requirements, thus potentially increasing her basal temperature.

This problem is indeed a thorny one.

This post is surely a wind up? Sorry but 26 degrees is nothing, I live in QLD Australia, that's a winter day here..As for the dogs if they have double coats that means there is an insulating layer of fur which is designed to maintain a steady core body temperature in both hot and cold temps, that how insulation works..Dogs also have a higher body temperature than humans so tend to deal better in warmer weather. Finally OP if this is real, you sound unhinged. Maybe if you stopped flapping about with checking the thermostat and forcing frozen towels on your dogs you would chill out a bit. Pun definitely intended.

To be fair, 26 degrees is not usual for the UK. We only have a few days each year that come up to this kind of temperature - and our houses and infrastructure are built to retain heat, rather than disperse it. I can understand how it feels daft from an Aus perspective but we're not used to it!!

My kitchen today is hotter than my living room....not because I've cooked, I don't have doors so it's open to the living room....but because it's the side of the house that has had sun on since early morning so despite the blinds it's warmed up. My front room part ..if effectively the same open space is lovely and cool.

@LaughingElderberry Another Aussie here, saying (as before) 26 is just not hot no matter what you are used to. Even Santa copes with brief sojourns involving heat 🤣. Seriously, I lived for years working in the UK, and you are not exactly a bunch of complete arctic dwellers who can’t cope with this weather. I was also in a position that dealt with the fallout of heatwaves there, so understand the inexperience with ‘heat’ but that was usually vulnerable elderly AND much hotter than 26. What the OP describes is a level of odd.

And, as before, OP seems to have no idea of dogs/coats as here we leave double coated dogs as is in hot weather given the double coat acts as an insulator to keep out the heat in hot weather, and keep in the heat in cold weather. So we neither clip them as we do single coats, or smother them with ice towels etc🥴.

I think your perspective might be different if you grew up in a hot country. I have a friend living near me who grew up in Egypt. She's in her fifth year in the UK and when I saw her yesterday she was in jeans and a jumper as it didn't feel that warm to her. Whereas her idea of what a cold day is, is very different to mine!

It also depends on your house; and on the level of humidity.

New builds are built for energy efficiency - they're like glasshouses in summer!

Houses in Spain and Australia (per earlier posters) are designed for their climates, so it's really not a fair comparison.

They stay cooler with the thick coat believe it or not.

😁

Isn't Mumsnet glorious all the same.

As mad as a box of frogs mind you.

But glorious.😁

My house is pretty good in the winter, so I can be quite sparing with my heating. In the summer it is 🌞🔥But it's only a few days a year and we try and enjoy time outside whilst we can!

It's peak mumsnet when the OP complains about the temperature of her house because DH did some cooking, and now she has to burn all of the tea towels.

Crikey! Poor man can't even decide on the meal he'd like to make in his own kitchen 😢.

26 degrees is not an especially unusual summer temperature in the South East of the UK, especially London.

To me that is - great lovely weather for drying clothes and a beer garden trip rather than OMG everyone is going to die of hot.

Sorry, this made me snort out loud with laughter

SharpOliveHam
Im doing everything in my power to keep the house cool

Right you are, Poseidon

😆

If my DH tried to tell me when I'm allowed to use the oven I'd tell him to fuck off.

You are absolutely ridiculous. I hate the heat as it makes me unwell but this is just crazy. It has to be a windup. No one can be like this in real life and if they are I guarantee soon you won’t have to worry as he won’t be living with you to cause any added heat.

Seriously? 🤣