Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Very unreasonable. I can't stand being really hot either but people have to eat.

Unreasonable and controlling.
I highly doubt a small amount of cooking had that much of an impact on the temperature. It’s only 1pm, it will continue to get warmer for several hours yet.

Shave the dogs.

So you've asked if yabu - everyone has said yes and you are pushing back ! Why ask? Just own it.

Yes. Mandating someone can’t cook food in the way they prefer isn’t ok.

Then using ‘you are undoing all my hard work’ to try and make it as though it’s a personal attack on you, isn’t ok.

Get some fans for the dogs/you and/or cooling mats. It’s summer it’s going to be hot. Trying to ban the oven for summer is just bizarre.

Is this a reverse?

Ok so what? Seriously OP. It will cool down again. People have to eat dinner.

Go have a cool shower, give the dogs a few ice cubes to play with, and apologise to your DH.

We have an extra wide range and the kitchen is sweltering now.

Don’t be silly, of course he’s entitled to cook himself a meal in his own kitchen,you’re being ridiculous.

You are both hugely controlling and hugely overreacting to the house being warm on a warm day.

Buy a window aircon unit and get a grip.

Yeah, I don’t think a dog needs a frozen towel in mid-twenties heat.

Is the dog only allowed in the kitchen? From your replies, I think you are seeking validation rather than views as people all think you are acting unreasonably and yet you keep putting your view over...

Leave the room then?

Why are you throwing frozen cold towels on the dogs?

Great you had a ham salad? What’s your point?

Glad I’m not married to you 😂

I’m not telling him he can’t use it but I’m calling him out on being selfish. His meal has impacted the entire household.

Assume your ham in that delicious sounding “ham sad” came out of a fridge. Well guess what, that fridge stays cold by heating the air around it. For the love of god turn it off !!!

And are you locked into the kitchen for some reason? Go into another room.

Sorry op, I hate the heat, but this is way over the top. I think you need to apologise to your dh and maybe buy him an air fryer?

Yes, you are being controlling.

I appreciate it's frustrating living in a house that is very well insulated - mine is the same. Opening the windows makes no odds. But banning hot food preparation is extreme.

I think people should be allowed to use their own kitchen appliances. I also doubt a fry up affects the temperature of the house 4c. Get him an airfryer.

Does he not get a say in his own home? Your wants and needs come before his? The dogs even come before him.
He's not even allowed to use household appliances without permission.
If I were him, I'd be gone.

I get very hot and it makes me grumpy but I would never ban anyone from using the cooker.
In any case there is something very wrong with yoru house and/or ventilation if cooking a meal makes that much difference to the temperature.
I have a very floofy dog who hates the heat and I am not chucking frozen towels at him, if he over heats (vey rare) then cold water on his paws seems to work

Absolutely controlling

You need help, monitoring temperatures as an when your upstairs/downstairs and relating to who's using what appliance is insane, really insane and unfortunate for your husband

It’s far too hot too open the windows if it’s 22C indoors, windows open only work when it’s cooler outside than inside.

If it’s 28C outdoors and now 26C indoors due to oven being on there is nothing anyone can do now, house is stuck at that temperature until it cools overnight. Fans just blow air around and opening windows will make it worse.

Using the oven during the middle of the day when it’s forecast to be 30C outside is unacceptable. Trying to keep a house cool
for self and pets is not controlling - it’s sensible!