Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

How cruel of you to buy dogs unsuitable for the climate they live in.

This has got to be a wind up. Nobody is this stupid surely?

Running an oven for 40 minutes is not going to heat up a house by 4 degrees. That's just, y'know, physics.

I hate the heat too OP and am currently very very pregnant so I have lower tolerance than most and even I think this is a little far! Kitchens are to be used.

Its a roasting hot day and I don’t think him cooking a fry up is gonna make or break that.

26 degrees really isn't that hot. YABVU

You'll be on the divorce threads next, no one would put up with being told what to eat for lunch.

This is incredibly dramatic. You sound highly strung and very stressful to live with.

Perhaps OP could also rig up some kind of tripwire system whereby an alarm goes off if her DH approaches the oven outside of the permitted timeframe. or even looks at the oven in a longing way.

I live in England. It is perfectly mild enough for my dogs except for a handful of days a year. And I do very well to keep them cool on unseasonably hot days.

They are both rescues. Don’t be ridiculous

I still don't understand how 40 mins of oven use has heated up your entire house?

You need to chill TF out (pun intended)

You have paddling pools for your dogs but your husband can’t cook lunch oooookay!
Poor man . Perhaps if you stopped running round after dogs who are in all probability fine you wouldn’t get so hot .

Buy an aircon unit or an air cooler if you are that concerned about your dogs. We did for our spoilt, normal coated rescue who enjoys having it on while lying in the direct sun 🙄.

The kitchen is now 26c according to hive. I checked at around 12 pm and it was nowhere near that.

I just went and touched range and it is scolding to the touch still. The kitchen was lovely and cool for the dogs and now it is the hottest room in the house.

I'm going against the grain here with a YANBU.

It's atrociously hot outside, and a disciplined and considerate approach should be taken to keeping the house cool, including opening/shutting windows at the right time, use of oven, use of tumble dryer, not hogging ice cubes etc.

Maybe if you calmed down a bit, you wouldn't be so hot and flustered.

Wow. Imagine if you had an ACTUAL problem 😂

I was expecting this to be about your husband using the oven and making it all greasy and horrible after you’d just cleaned it. You are of course being unreasonable! You aren’t the only one living in the house.

Your husband has the right to eat what he wants, when he wants regardless of you and the dogs being sensitive to heat. You chose to have dogs so unless there's a backstory of them being his dogs you didn't want and you now do all of the care, YABU.

😂

Dunno why you think this is a wind up! Many people try to keep their homes cool for themselves and their pets with our windows and curtains closed to stop the heat getting in, as homes are so well insulated now that cooling down once the outside temperatures have dropped still takes hours even once it’s low teens outside.

Cooking when trying to keep house cool is ridiculous!

OP, you have a list of responses here all telling you that you ARE being unreasonable and you ARE being controlling, and rather than taking that feedback on board and going and apologising to your DH, you're arguing back.

We are all strangers, with no agenda, looking at your situation and all agreeing that you are the one in the wrong.

Part of growing up is learning to accept criticism, recognising that you're not always right and that living with people takes a lot of compromise, you can't always have things your way.

It really sounds like you still have some growing up to do.

1. buy an airfryer, the whole oven for a single portion is ridiculous.

2. dogs live in hot countries and survive. Create shade and buy them a paddling pool if necessary.

3. 26 is barely warm but you could think about airconditioning if you are this sensitive to heat.

You are being controlling, unless you’re menopausal in which case LTB….🤪🤪

Sorry but this is bonkers - I have two spaniels. Walked them very early to get their exercise in and wear the out. Have plenty of water out for them. Happily mooching around in doors or outside in the shrubs/shade, or napping on the tiled floor. If they look hot I spritz them with some water. And you could invest in one of the many reasonably priced portable air con/fans Amazon stock.

Your husband is absolutely entitled to cook a meal in the kitchen. Just open the windows and allow the air to circulate and it’ll cool down quick enough. That poor man.