DH invited widowed friend to ours, is this ok?…

[Boobooduck]

I’ve never met him before but sounds like a nice guy. Lost his DW to cancer about 2 years ago bless him. He isn’t one of DH good friends but they’ve knows each other for years and DH invited him around for lunch - DH can’t cook so the best he could do would be cheese sarnies!

Anyway, I said invite him over on Thursday night and I’ll make homemade lasagna and salad and we can get a couple of bottles of wine incase he wants a drink…

Does that sound ok? Lasagna? If not, what else do you suggest?

TIA

Sounds nice, but do find out if he eats meat!

Yes check dietary restrictions. My DH would never think to do that when issuing an invitation and I've had a few close calls!

Honestly, we wouldn't know what he eats.

Tell your DH to ask him.

Your details are irrelevant. This is MN so you need to tell us class details (beyond which might be inferred from your post).

Lasagna would be ok for working class, lower middle and upper class / aristocracy. But you will have to try harder for middle middle or upper middle class. Boundaries could be blurred by a judicious choice of salad(s) to accompany.

Sounds perfect, agree check on dietary, but it is a nice thing to do and you will hopefully make a new friend, if not the ask, there is nothing wrong with salad with some other stuff (baby potatoes in butter, cold meats, quiche, stuff you can pick at and have later too) Hope you have a lovely time. x

I don’t understand what his marital status or how well your DH knows him has to do with whether he will eat lasagne?

Thank you, I will do.

I feel a bit miffed at DH as he never cooks or makes lunch etc as he can’t be arsed so would rather eat cereal… 🙄 I quite enjoy cooking (within reason) but not for stranges as I don’t like pressure. DH invited him knowing he can’t cook so l felt obligated to say I’d cook tea.

Twat

Are you asking whether widowers eat lasagna? 🥴

I suppose I feel under more pressure to get it right as he’s had a hard time losing his wife. It’s not his fault bless him but I want to make his experience as pleasant as possible

No, just whether homemade lasagna sounds ok?

I could get a takeaway in but feel that’s a cop out so want to make an effort for him

Sounds perfectly fine unless he has any dietary restrictions you need to be aware of.

I'm a widow and I'd be very happy with that

I think you are v nice to cook him dinner OP, but I don’t think whether it’s lasagne or quiche is going to make any odds re loss of wife..

Whatever you do, don’t serve strawberries and cream for dessert. Apparently it’s uncouth.🤷‍♀️

I don't know many people who dislike lasagna. I think it sounds lovely. Sorry for being a twat in my earlier post.
FWIW the best lasagna I've ever been served is this one: https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/chicken-squash-pesto-lasagne
My friend served it with nice crusty garlic bread and salad.

Just treat him like a normal person! If you'd have soup and roll have that, if you like making lasagne, have that. He's just an ordinary person who got unlucky, he'll be delighted to be asked over and he will be far less interested in what you present for food/state of your house than you think. I used to flap about the state of my house or that my husband had bought something a bit rubbish for our guests- now I'm a widow and I realise that none of that mattered, what mattered was being in a fun and welcoming home. I try to have people over much more now.

He’s a person who has lost a spouse. A meal with friends will appeal to him as much as anyone else. Don’t overthink and make it more than that.

If the weather near you is anything like near me (upper 20s) lasagna might be too heavy. I'd do a nice marinated (soy sauce, olive oil, grated ginger, lime juice, cook it in the marinade) tuna steak with an avocado, spinach, tomato and mozzarella salad. Crunchy crusty bread. Yum!

😂😂😂

Why can your adult husband not cook?

Tell him it's about time and to find himself an easy recipe.

I'd do a variety of marinated kebab sticks ( vegie, chicken , beef) Plus a salad ( maybe caprese) and a warm potato salad. Something for everyone. Plus dessert. A choc cake with raspberries and raspberry coulis and vanilla cream/ice-cream never goes astray.
I am assuming warm weather. You can cook the kebabs on the bbq if you have one or under the grill.

If I’m invited out for dinner I eat what I’m given unless it’s shellfish - then I eat around it and leave it.
Don't make a big deal about it. Just relax and enjoy.
Most people are happy to be invited out and will do their best with the food.
If your guest is fussy then, tough sh..t 🙄

I've been sitting on my hands but now you've said it, it's exactly what I want to know.

Lazy fucker can't be arsed to learn from the millions of easy tutorials on the internet, and invites a random man for food, knowing wifey will take care of it all 😒

Homemade lasagne is a lovely dish to make. Don't over think it. Keep it simple and unfussy, lasagne and salad.

Good luck and let us know how it goes

I seen that post 😳😂