DH invited widowed friend to ours, is this ok?…

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I’ve never met him before but sounds like a nice guy. Lost his DW to cancer about 2 years ago bless him. He isn’t one of DH good friends but they’ve knows each other for years and DH invited him around for lunch - DH can’t cook so the best he could do would be cheese sarnies!

Anyway, I said invite him over on Thursday night and I’ll make homemade lasagna and salad and we can get a couple of bottles of wine incase he wants a drink…

Does that sound ok? Lasagna? If not, what else do you suggest?

TIA

@Ponkpinkpink15 but this is the husband's mate - not some random stranger - who he was more than happy to have over for a sandwich until OP intervened and insisted on inviting him round for a home cooked dinner

But not everyone lives where you live. We are, thankfully, going to be enjoying something like 20° on those days. There's lots of us.

Obviously.

Lasagne sounds great.
Maybe make extra and see if he would like to take some home with him.

😂 yeah as he’s a widower and he can’t cook. Also maybe read the thread,

So you’ve come on Mumsnet just to ask if it’s ok to serve lasagne to your husbands friend? I’d vote unreasonable just for the silly post 🤣

Nothing to do with the cooking skills.
When I was in a similar situation I loved that people had me over for dinner and gave me extra to take home. Some days were just a bit grim that I couldn't be bothered to cook so didn't eat.

You’ll be grand! Sounds like DH is being kind to a widower and also thinks your cooking skills are ace. My DH has a restaurant and people quiver at having us over for dinner - whereas we just love being cooked for and whatever is going. 👌. Enjoy!

No it doesnt . It sounds like he did a perfectly normal thing of inviting a mate for lunch.

Seems a daft question to me. Why not ask him? I don’t understand why you posted this 🙄

Sounds like a fab thing to do. I think he would be very grateful for the company.

I saw that and it made me laugh.

We had great big bowls of strawberries, and jugs of cream at our (outdoor) wedding reception.

We’re the lowest of the low 😂

This is shocking. Why would he be grateful for the company. Why would you assume he doesn’t have friends, family, children, even a new partner?

I want to say a thank you that you might not expect. After my mum died the people who took my dad out to the pub, or for a meal were few and far between.
I appreciate to this day the people like you took the time to do this for my wonderful dad. You might never know that he has a grateful daughter who will remember that lasagna in 10 years time.

Lasagne sounds like a huge faff tbh. I'd just cook up some chicken bits, baked or new potatoes and salad. Anything that requires minimal effort really.

Im a widow, its the company and time you are offering him is what he will appreciate, so please dont over think it.
I would not eat lasagne im veggie also allergic to garlic, so i would get your husband to ask if he has any dietary needs.

This thread is actually fun, love the comments! I'm not British, so there are lots of cultural differences here that I find absolutely fascinating.
Anyhow, about the widower and the lasagne. As a Brazilian, I understand your concern about his recently losing his wife and you trying to create the best atmosphere possible for him. I hadn't realized that before, but we do that here too. I truly believe food communicates a lot.
I think homemade lasagne sounds great, and so does the salad, I could live with that. But of course, as some people have said, checking if he has any dietary restrictions would be helpful.

His wife died two years ago though, not two weeks ago...

.....you'd hate Jonathan Swift.

And. . . That makes him still a widow. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think it matters. Lots of people do lots in the first two weeks. It’s anything after the 3 month period that tends to mean the most in my opinion and I still think it’s very kind

I think that’s a really nice thing to do and I don’t think he will care what he has to eat? Whether you make a lasagna or get a take away, he’ll just be glad of the company
when my dad died my mum got excluded from all the “couples” stuff they used to do. It was so hard on her, so including him and inviting him round is the most important thing, the food is not important

Really? Get him to wash his hands first and follow the instructions on the jars of lasagne sauce

It’s a friend inviting a friend over for lunch, which got turned into an evening barbecue. Do you think it’s terribly kind of friends who invite you over for food?