Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

What warm flat coke with backwash that her friend didnt even want 🤢🤮

So annoying and so wasteful .
The entitled behaviour- "I want one sip then I'll just leave it ?! "
This really would grind my gears - despite being comfortably off now I grew up relatively poor - cans of drink were not on our radar as kids as they were far too expensive. So the wastefulness and lack of regard would upset me .

My 9 year old don't share bottles of drink with me anymore😢

I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

Because you acted like a child. Who opens a can of coke, takes a sip and leaves it there?

She probably just blurted it out because she was surprised an adult would do that.

She was right in the intent, even if the delivery was a bit harsh - but then later apologised for the delivery.

Not sure what else you want from her or why you're still moaning a week later tbh.

This thread is insane 😆 the op didn't harm anyone FFS

Leave an open can full of coke in my house and see what happens.

Correct.

But she's here complaining about a friend treating her like a child despite her behaving like a child, and most of us are agreeing with her friend. You obviously think OPs behaviour was acceptable. Why?

People these days seem to be offended about absolutely anything.
Like another poster said, what a non-event....
And your friend was correct.

This is like my daughter says she's hungry asks for an apple takes a tiny bite and then says she's full and doesn't want it. Really pisses me off but she's 3. I wouldn't expect an adult to act like that

You were beyond rude @coldayscientist. And your friend was right to pull you up on it as it shows a lack of very basic manners.

I would not have said anything. She is not wrong. that was rude.

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

Assuming this is a reverse but whoever had a sip of the Coke and then left it was BU, obviously.

I simply cannot believe you are sharing this utter triviality on mumsnet.
Get over it

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

That's your only response? After over one hundred replies.

Yeah I'm with your friend, maybe she shouldn't have blurted out that harshly but she apologised so no harm.

But you did do something super wasteful and rude so I would have found it hard to keep a lid on it either and probably done the same as your mate then probably texted you after apologising since sometimes I drop my filter too. 😅

If I was you though I'd probably text your mate and be like "no worries, sorry for just taking a sip and leaving it, I wasn't thinking" and then all will be right with the world and everyone doesn't have to hold onto any lasting resentment over a diet coke.

OP I don't think I'd enjoy being friends with you. You're ill mannered.

Focussing on the one thing she can defend.

She never spoke to you like a child she commented it was a waste…which it was.

It doesn’t matter if it was left over from the previous night it wasn’t opened and could have been saved for later or another event rather then just opening it for one sip! You could have grabbed a glass of water if you were dry. I wouldn’t be impressed as your friend either.

It wasn't the buffet anymore, though. It was the next day. Yes, I would have asked if it was OK , except I wouldn't have asked at all if I was only going to have one sip. You sound really, really rude.

She was probably wound up that the house was a bit of a tip and people hadn’t really pulled their weight at the end of the night, so this was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

How rude. I'd be pretty pissed off if you had one sip of a drink then dumped it. I would have been waiting for an apology

She hosted you the night before. It is her food and drink in her house. So if you wanted something the next day you need to ask first. You especially don’t waste her money having one sip and leaving it. It’s a question of entitlement vs respect.

I cannot believe I’m explaining this to an adult.

You sound like a spoilt brat. I’d be calling you up on this too. Embarrassing (from you).